Hello all! Hoping to get some opinions/advice on drama my MOH/sister is causing about my dad contributing to my wedding (positive/constructive opinions only please 😊). I'll post more history and detail below, but here is my question: Is it NEVER okay for a parent to contribute unequal dollar amounts to each daughter's wedding even when the circumstances are different and the parent wants to? I agreed to all my dad's wedding requests when my sister wouldn't, I talked to him about contributing when she never brought it up with him, my wedding costs more (in part because I'm inviting the additional guests my dad wants), and my Fiance's family can't afford to contribute as much as her's did. Is contributing the same percentage not "equal" enough?
Some history: My sister has had a rough relationship with our Dad her whole life, while I have had a pretty good relationship with him apart from a couple conflicts. She has always felt like I was the favorite, and probably had pretty good reason to feel that way. My sister got engaged three years ago and originally wasn't going to even invite my dad to her wedding. She did, and my dad mentioned to her that he wanted to contribute to her wedding but never said anything specific. She never brought the financial topic up with him and also told him flat out no when he voiced a couple opinions/requests about her wedding. Right before the wedding he asked her how much her wedding cost all together and then on the wedding day without any discussion just gave her a check for 1/2 the wedding cost. Fast forward until now, and I am engaged and my dad mentioned to me that he wanted to contribute to the wedding. I set up a time to talk to him about specifics, budgets, and his expectations. On that call he told me all of his requests for my wedding, which I agreed to. Then he told me he was thinking about paying for half of my wedding but needed to talk to my sister first as, since my wedding is bigger, he would be giving me a higher dollar amount than he gave her. My sister went ballistic and said he had to give the exact same amount to both of us. I could best describe her bahavior as throwing a tantrum. Now my dad is in a conundrum. Also (small vent) is it just me or is this incredibly self absorbed of my sister? Shouldn't she be making my feelings a priority since it is my wedding? I bent over backwards and went all out trying to make her wedding as amazing as possible.
Thanks in advance!
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