moh wants to wear a revealing dress

Just let her know how you are feeling. Hoping she will understand where you are coming from. I think the point is not to take the attention away from you. That dress might do just that.

You need to be honest and tell her she should be more covered up. You would prefer if she wore a dress that didn’t expose that much skin

I did the same thing with my bridesmaids, we all went to David's Bridal and the girl's picked dresses in their price range and style and all ordered the same color. I said right from the beginning to the girls and the store attendant that I don't want them in anything too tight and "sexy" I want modesty. Luckily they all agreed and said they want A-line dresses.

Tell you're MOH "sorry girl but you look too hot in that dress, my older male family members might have a heart attack" and then nicely tell her that you're being serious, you really want everyone to look modest and explain what kind of dress you have in mind. Jokes and compliments always lighten the mood I'm sure it'll work out!

Yikes, I am all for body confidence and wearing what makes you happy but this would probably rub me the wrong way. I would just try to make a joke of it along the lines of what Brittany said. If she gets super upset about it, I would probably just let it go. It doesn't reflect on you or your taste and you can ask the photographer for closer cropped shots of the two of you.
For other people that are considering something similar for your bridesmaids, I think it is helpful to specify "no cutouts" etc.

Its way to far in advance to even have picked your wedding party let alone dress discussions.

Are you really only concerned about the attention/looks she's going to get? Because then I would just let her wear it and she can deal with all that if shes willing to wear that dress in the first place.

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I just noticed the date after you posted this comment. OP, she's right, anything can happen between now and then. As it gets closer, its possible someone could find out that something important is happening on the same date and need to step down, or you might decide to add someone in. Also, there's no guarantee the dresses will fit them by Oct 2019, what if someone gets pregnant and doesn't return to their normal weight after having the baby, or will be very pregnant the day of, what if one of them goes on medicine that makes them gain or lose a significant amount of weight, or what if they happen to gain or lose on their own. Wait until 6-7 months before your wedding to go bridesmaid dress shopping.

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Yes, I agree that it is too early to be picking dresses, however at this juncture we were only discussing the issue of what I was considering for bridesmaid attire at the time with the girls (I should have explained that...my bad), and explained that we wouldn't start actual dress shopping until October of this year (everything needs to be planned out well in advance given the extremely busy schedules and budget planning of all involved, including my own). I was a little surprised that she wanted to buy this dress so soon, but I think the style of the dress was what sent alarms going off in my head.

Our wedding date is a preferred date, but may change depending on the availability of the venue (we've looked at 10 so far that are within our budget). I guess it's a good thing that my MOH showed me the dress she was seriously considering. It gives me enough time to look at what they're interested in and give my opinion. I just want to figure out how to do that without coming off as a b**** or bridezilla.

Just explain you don't like the side cut-outs and wish for something more modest. End of story.

I also want to address this line "definite unwanted attention from the men".... that's a REALLY concerning statement i would NOT bring up with her. It's not her job to dress modestly "for the men". Women should be able to dress how they wish without having to worry about unwanted attention. I bet she would look sexy as hell in that dress, and I would be drooling with jealousy not disapproval.

Politely explain that you dislike the cut-outs and wish for something more modest. DO NOT BLAME THE MEN that *might* look at her.

I'd table BM dress discussions until you are much closer to your date. No one should be purchasing a BM dress a year and nine months before a wedding.

I'd also consider that the kind of dress she thinks she maybe, possibly wants to wear now might not be the dress she wants to wear 6 months before your wedding (when she should actually start worrying about getting a BM dress). A person's mind can change so much in over a year. She will probably see lots of other dresses in that time that she likes.

As for how to approach her, I think I'd tell her she looks awesome, but your grandparents and other older relatives are going to be there and maybe she could consider a slightly less revealing style.

I think you’re overthinking. She sent you the pic to get your opinion and see if you would approve or veto. Just say “maybe a little low cut for the venue!”

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For me, there wasn't a hard decision to make: the bridal party was chosen this early because they were the only girls I would consider. I don't have many girlfriends that are close, and in all honesty I couldn't imagine doing this without the girls who I asked (they accepted without hesitation).

As for wedding discussions, anyone who knows me knows that I like to plan as early as possible and create a backup plan just in case, so that I have enough time to consider options and work within our budget plan as well as give others who may have busy schedules enough of a heads-up regarding dates and times. My FH and I are notorious for planning well ahead of time (dating for 10 years). 😊

I would like to second this YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS!!!!!!!!!!!!