Mom as Maid of Honor Instead of Bridal Party

I actually DID ask my mom. She's my best friend, but I didn't ask her in lieu of a bridal party. She actually turned me down! She said she was so excited but wanted to be able to enjoy the day as the mother of the bride. I was surprised but so happy with anything that made my mom happy. We still had a blast planning and dress shopping together. And she still spoke to me right before the ceremony and made sure I was in the moment. She also walked me down the aisle with my dad.

My aunt is my maid of honour and honestly I don't see there being any issue with having your mom. If anything, I think she will be totally flattered!

My mom is my MOH but I am having 4 other girls as bridesmaids. Personally for me I couldn't imagine having anyone else as MOH. She has my back no matter what and loves me unconditionally. She also is the one who has my best interests at heart. My mom was so happy she cried a little when I asked her.

View Quoted Comment YES! This is exactly how I feel. No one has taken care of me like my mom (or known me longer.) Thank you for the reply!!!

View Quoted Comment You're welcome 😊

That sounds amazing! Go for it! My daughter just got married & had no bridal party. I cried when she said I was going to walk her down the aisle!

Mother of Honor! That is very sweet. I had thought about that but I asked my sister to be my maid of honor. My mom has been the most helpful though and she preferred me to have my sister have the maid of honor title.

It's really not as uncommon as you may think.

View Quoted Comment I don't know why I never thought of calling her mother of honor. I refer to her as my matron of honor. I'm going to have to start using mother of honor for now on.

My grandmother's younger sister, younger than my Dad, ja always been my auntie, like a Godmother . Though I had a MOH and a couple bridesmaids, she was my Matron of Honor. She was entirely surprised, and very happy. And gor all she was away all but 4 weeks of my 5 month engagement, and I was away 2 of those, she did so many important things no one had time for in the rush. We did planning. But she helped some overseas guests, walked them through travel plans. Picked them up at NH, Montreal or Albany airports, and could speak for them , not a random cab driver. Things no one else could do at odd times over a week. Mostly, we talked on the phone at least 4x a week, more than we had since I got out of school. It really was very special.

I believe, matron of honor is the traditional title for a "maid of honor" who is/was married, or had kids.

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Hmmm - I thought matron was only used for a married woman! My mom and dad are divorced and it was a messy divorce, so I am going to call her maid of honor either way in my situation so she doesn't have to feel associated to the failed marriage by being given a "matron" title.

Having your mom is a great idea especially if you do want it. Many grooms ask their dad to be the best man.
However: if you have a MOH and a best man/best woman ,it means you have a bridal party.

We’re the opposite - my daughter is my MOH.