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Emily
Super August 2020

Mom Drama

Emily, on March 8, 2020 at 5:35 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 38

Has anyone else’s moms been really bizarre during the whole wedding planning process? So first my mom was saying really rude unnecessary comments/opinions towards things I liked. After I talked to her and expressed I didn’t like that now she’s saying she feels like she hasn’t helped much during...
Has anyone else’s moms been really bizarre during the whole wedding planning process? So first my mom was saying really rude unnecessary comments/opinions towards things I liked. After I talked to her and expressed I didn’t like that now she’s saying she feels like she hasn’t helped much during planning? I’ve literally hired all the vendors and am not sure how much more she could possibly help? I had her and FMIL there for dress shopping, two venue visits and am planning a girls day to address our invites and make mints. Is this just weird wedding behavior that’s normal?? Who else has had issues with their moms during all this.
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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    Wow, that is quite bizarre 😳have you met her before?
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  • Allie
    Dedicated May 2020
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    My mother and I have definitely been arguing more since starting all the wedding planning. Whenever she doesn’t agree/ doesn’t like a decision I make she blows it way out of proportion.. She also calls me bridezilla when we argue as well(especially when SHE’S the one being ridiculous) which she knows makes me super annoyed.. 🙄 love my sweet mama and she has definitely been the most helpful person with helping me out so far but I’d have to agree that wedding planning brings out a different side for sure!
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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    Agreed I absolutely love my mom🥰but it feels good to hear other people are having difficulties with pleasing everybody and avoiding hurt feelings’
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    There are a whole bunch of us who ended up not having our mothers at the wedding at all. Unfortunately, what with societal expectations and pressures, a lot of toxic family patterns can come out.

    I'm sorry. You're not alone.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
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    Yes, several times and we got on fine, which made everything seem much stranger.
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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    Oh my goodness that’s sad 😢
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  • Gabrielle
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Ohhh yeah. My mom and my aunt are helping me with decor. They throw a lot of ideas at me, and I agree with like 70% of the things.

    But if I disagree with something that my mom shows me, she gets really annoyed and says that I'm too picky. I feel like throwing in the towel and telling her to decorate however she wants.

    e.g. my aunt found some cheap vines downtown and I said I didn't like them because they looked way too fake. She got mad at me for that and said, who cares if they look real. Uh ok??

    I REALLY appreciate them both but omg. Why am I not allowed to share my honest opinion.

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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    Haha I feel like I’m at the same page as you! As SOON as we decided on a color she went and bought a bag of random things, and I was like where would this stuff even go 😅I’m happy she’s excited but I was like we have got to tone it down. When it comes to decor I’m more towards the simplicity is key.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    I was actually thrilled she didn't come, because of the toxicity of the relationship.


    Do what you need to do to keep yourself healthy, physically and emotionally.
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  • Kayla
    Devoted November 2020
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    My mom has been like an emotional roller coaster through all of planning! FH and I decided to include both our moms in all the vendor things. FH mom has been all about it and has driven two hours each way to be at everything she could. When I tell my mom about stuff she say's she'll go initially, then change her mind about a week before hand, then a day or two before will ask if FMIL is going and then decide she needs to go. Or if I ask for her opinion on things she just says "it's your wedding, do what you want." I love my mom to death and am glad she's helped with a little so far, but I just wish I could figure out if she actually wants to help or feels obligated.

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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    Valid, especially if it was going to get in the way of you relaxing and enjoying your day!!
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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    It sounds like ours are opposites right now haha. Mine is like I don’t feel involved enough. I guess it’s hard to find a happy medium.
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  • Ashley
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    Wow... whiplash much?

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
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    Right?! At this point I’m not really sure where we stand.
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  • A
    Just Said Yes June 2020
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    I've had some similar instances. My mom hasn't been feeling involved, and truth is, I don't really want her involved. She came to my initial dress try on and is planning my bridal shower with both of my grandmother's and my MOH. I just try to update her now and again so she feels included. She has made some comments on my style choices, but I have chosen to ignore them and move on.
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  • E
    Devoted August 2020
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    The only thing my mom was absolutely crazy about were flowers. I was ok with fake ones, and she was INSISTING that I get real ones, and she doesn't care that I don't want real ones, she will pay for all of them. So I'm like, *shrug* ok lol

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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    Yeah I kinda see wedding planning as mine and my FHs thing! We’ve enjoyed picking things out together and honestly haven’t really needed any outside help! I think she thought she’d be the one helping pick colors and centerpieces and all that but luckily my FH has been involved to help
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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
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    Haha that’s not a bad battle! Luckily you weren’t set on something so it wasn’t a big deal to change for you 😊it’s funny the things that get people all worked up about
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