Quick background: my fiancé and I have been engaged for 2 1/2 years at this point and are finally getting married in September of this year. We are paying for everything but the catering.
Throughout the entire planning process my mom has been very distant..? She was very excited when we got engaged and said she could not wait to help plan it with my, but has not seemed to care at all so far and now we’re only two months away.
She has gotten snippy with me each time I ask for her opinion on something and tells me she isn’t in the mood right now and to just drop it, so I leave her alone. I was surprised when she offered to go on a venue visit with us and our coordinator, but she spent the time on her phone with a friend telling them their daughter should be married there and had no input or interest with planning our day.
Now that we’re so close my cousin (a bridesmaid) has offered to plan my bridal shower and bachelorette because my MoH (sister) and mom haven’t said anything about either. I was very grateful for her offer and told her to go ahead with it. When my mom found out she flipped. She told me she had ideas and wanted to plan it, but it’s not her fault she has been too busy to do anything about it and called me selfish for caring more about having a shower and party than her feelings. She is especially upset my aunt is paying for the bach weekend as a gift and says it’s a dig against her and I shouldn’t have accepted the money, even though she wasn’t planning anything else.
What do I do? I want more than anything for her to be a part of planning the wedding, but she’s doing nothing but push me away and tear me down at every turn, calling me selfish and telling me she has more important things to worry about. I’ve spent night after night crying to my fiancé after a run in with her and am ready to give up completely. Has anyone else gone through this? Sorry for the novel! It’s been building for months now.
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