Mom issues again...so tired of it

I understand this feeling so much! instead of my cousin, it's my MOH and younger sister that my stepmom is gossiping with (my mom passed away and I'm usually very close with my stepmom). Luckily, my little sister is now switching to my side on almost everything since I had a heart to heart with her, so that's helping with my situation. Maybe a one on one convo with your cousin would help? (I'm assuming it wouldn't just from the bit you've posted... your cousin sounds like my cousin - thank goodness she's not friends with my stepmom!) there's also just going to lunch with your mom and not talking wedding as an option. maybe you guys need that time to remind yourselves of the bond you share.

We did go to lunch after about a after week as a family. It was super awkward, everyone avoided talking about the wedding since that was a source of tension. But it was weird because a few days before lunch my mom texted me at the 1 year mark till the wedding; sounding super happy and wanting to talk about it. But it's just off right now still, I think time will help. I know I need to talk to my cousin about stuff that's going on, but she lives 3 hours from me and we both are super busy so it's hard to find a time to talk to her. I think we all are just trying to move on at this point and just talk about the wedding when we absolutely have to lol.

At least you two are still somewhat communicating. My mom and I have always had a horrible relationship and I'm pretty sure we'll officially never talk again after this is all over. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there, it's going to be a magical day when it comes and then all this drama will be behind you.

Yup, sounds like my situation was with my stepmom! ugh, the back and forth between excited and judgmental/bossy is so hard to deal with. Getting my sister on my side only happened after my bridal shower was a disaster because my stepmom was incredibly rude at times, then would turn around and act like she was super excited for the wedding... the next day I talked to my sister in person and she turned her attitude around super fast lol. I still have a hard time texting about the wedding to either of them... and its 18 days away.

Yeah. It's super hard like I never know what mood I am going to get when I text her. She has recently said she will just keep her opinions to herself from now on and not say anything. I wasn't sure whether to believe her or not. But I texted her to ask about whether she liked an outfit, we have engagement pictures on Saturday. She responded I like them all...ok that is like no help at all. My FH's aunt sent my mom a friend request on Facebook too; my mom texted me saying I can't accept these friend requests because I don't know them. Ok I get that but FH's mom is no longer with us and this aunt is like a mom to him now so just accept the dang friend request. Plus she might have questions about the shower my mom offered to plan.

It's good that you and your sister had a heart to heart and she is on your side now!

It sounds like she's pouting a bit... I think instead of her not giving opinions, it would be more logical to say she'll ONLY give them when asked, but honestly I think sometimes people get a bit dramatic when they're emotionally invested, lol.

And oh geez... I don't even know what to say to that one, though I'm sure my stepmom would do the same thing if my FH's family tried to add her. luckily for me they haven't figured out facebook yet

Yeah I feel bad, she just has it sitting on her phone right now. I talked her into not downright deleting it. His aunt was the first person, besides his dad, to be super welcoming to me and talk to me. Which I have told my mom, didn't help at all. I'm hoping I can talk to my dad about it and maybe he can make her realize it's just a friend request and someone trying to be friendly. I should note that FH's family live in upstate New York and my family, myself and FH all live in central Wisconsin; with FH's dad being in Michigan. So it's not like they will see each other all the time.

Wedding's are so stressful it's ridiculous. I ended up 're organizing' my bridal party because who was my MOH was very selffish and I couldn't handle it anymore. my current MOH is so busy between work and school she has no idea what's happening. However, I made that decision because I was hurt, I wasn't thinking clearly and my mind was clouded. I don't regret the changes but I do regret not breathing before making a choice. It sounds like both of you are hurting and need a little YOU time. maybe a lunch, just the 2 of you or even like a spa day? go get some massages and just relax having the conversation. I know it will be difficult but open the door for the two of you to speak with out an argument. Being brutally honest does come with some tears sometimes and that break down sometimes needs to happen. Good luck gorgeous! and remember to breathe!