Hi everyone. Let me start off by saying that my relationship with my mom over the last year has been very rocky. She doesn't respect anyone's boundaries, especially her children because she sees us as some type of property (she would never admit to that but it's evident by her actions and expectations). My fiancé and I have been together 2.5 years, and have lived together for the last 9 months. Our wedding is in January. My family is very conservatively religious, and there is nothing wrong with that, but I have been disrespected openly and shamed for not "falling in line" with their beliefs, specifically on the topic of cohabitation.
I thought we were finally in a good place. She has been getting excited about the wedding planning with me and we have been talking frequently. Then, tonight, out of the blue, I get a text from her asking me if I would "move home" (i.e. move back in with her) before the wedding, due to her religious beliefs.
I am so irritated. I just feel completely disrespected. Over the last year I came very close to ending my relationship with her, and she knows that. Why does she continue to start drama? I have been very respectful in my responses, and in response to her question I acknowledged her feelings but said I am confident in my decision and would not be moving.
Now, there are crickets from her. I am sure she is absolutely furious, she can't stand when anyone says no to her. Has anyone else dealt with something similar? My anxiety is through the roof. TIA.