Mom Still Does Their Laundry - Red Flag or Deal Breaker?

Red flag. I know that he did his own laundry in high school and college, and I do most of the laundry in the relationship now, so not a big deal.

Red flag. My mom still does our laundry sometimes. To me, it's not a big deal. He does his own 99% of the time.

Red Flag, but I feel like this is something easily worked out. Not a game changer!

Red Flag. I actually had to break him of this habit when he moved in with me

Deal breaker. I don't want to be anyone's replacement mother.

Soooo... I don't have a problem with this. FH did his own laundry when we first met, but I lived with my mom and she did my laundry. My mom then offered to do his laundry. He didn't have a machine and he was coming over to do his laundry and she eventually just said she would do it. Things like this are my moms way of showing love. She still asks if we need help with laundry and sometimes I will have FH drop some off to her and she will wash and fold everything and tell him when its ready to be picked up.

When FH's mother found out my mom was doing his laundry she called him pathetic in front of his entire family and both him and I got really upset, but he didn't stop

That's a huge red flag for me! I would be worried that he hasn't fully grown up to do his own chores.

I think it'd be a red flag, but not a deal breaker. Thankfully, FH does his own!

Honestly not that bothered. Whenever FH goes home to visit his mom, she does his laundry occasionally.

Red flag, for sure. But not something I'd end it over.