Mom Still Does Their Laundry - Red Flag or Deal Breaker?

This would be a HUGE RED FLAG. Oh heck no!

Neither really.... my mom still does my laundry a lot of times. If we're going to our parents' house, they ask if we want to bring clothes home for them to wash. It's both of our mom's way of still doing "mom things" even though we haven't lived at home in years!

I guess Red Flag. . .I think it would be weird she does it.

It's a red flag for me only. I'd have to weigh all of the behavior between my FH and his Mom to call this a deal breaker and that would only be because there are a series of behaviors that are adding up to his being a bonafide momma's boy.

Lordy,big red flag. Mama's boy, would have to step up and learn how to wash his own clothes....wait, I wash all of his clothes! Lol trying to teach my stepson how to take care of his own clothes and pick up after himself.

Ooooh, boy, red flag and possibly deal breaker. (Unless there's a disability involved.)

That just tells me they don't know how to function as an adult.

(Funny story: turns out FH did most of the household laundry when he lived with his parents. He and his sister lived with their parents for a long time, because they grew up in NYC. It was exponentially cheaper to stay home. But that meant taking on a lot of housework and such to help out. One of FH's major jobs was the family laundry. It means he and I have drastically different laundry attitudes, and ... well, I've mostly adapted to his way. LOL.)

Depends on the situation. When my husband and I started dating, he was still living at home. He had tried for a longtime to get a teaching job, but it just wasn't panning out. He substituted for years without getting enough to live independently. He had just given up and started a full-time job.

So, while he still lived at home, I could see his mother washing his laundry without him even knowing she was going to do it! He knows how, but she also is just that kind of adorable.

However, if he didn't know how and/or he expected it... that would be a major redflag.

His mom lives on the other side of the country but if she was local and doing his laundry this would have been a red flag. My son has been doing his own laundry since he was 8 because I refuse to have him grow up without knowing how to do laundry.

Just a red flag in all honesty. I know my fiance can do laundry because I've had him do it before while I was at work. I just do the laundry myself though most of the time because I am picky.

FH did his own laundry when we first started dating and I was the one whose parents still did their laundry! Saturday was just laundry day and whoever was home worked on the laundry. Usually it was my parents since they got up earlier than me but if they had work I'd start the laundry.

90% deal breaker/10% depends on the situation; it just smacks of too many underlaying issues.

Red flag. FH has been independent for quite awhile anyway even when he was still living with his parents. We do laundry together for the most part but if one is at work and the basket is full, the other will at least start it. If one gets home before it's finished, we finish it together.

Red flag 🚩 that his mom does the laundry

Red flag. there needs to be some independence and growing up, but i wouldnt say it was a complete deal breaker.

Red flag, if mom is doing laundry anyway and he lives there what does it matter who does the laundry?

Red flag.. If mom does it once and a while when you go home, totally fine, but if you NEVER do laundry for yourself.. I am not going to do it for you bud

Red flag. FH does all the laundry and he usually takes my sons with him to do it. Men should be capable of washing laundry and our boys are learning that.

Red flag..we had to take our laundry to our parents for a while after we moved out because our apartment building didn't have washing machines. Laundry mats are expensive!

Deal breaker. We live with my mom and she doesnt do our laundry. The only time his mom does it for us is if we visit on her laundry day and it's like 2 shirts and 2 pants

Red Flag but not a deal breaker by any means.