Mom to Officiate?

If you already asked your family friend to officiate, it's hard to take that back without potentially hurting feelings. Maybe both the family friend and your mom can lead different parts of the ceremony? If there's a religious part of the ceremony, your mom can do that part, and/or maybe a reading?

View Quoted Comment Possibly. I also want to mention, the family friend is currently going through a divorce in which I recently found out about. I am sure people who have been divorced have officiated weddings before, but I also want someone who is able to bless our union. Not saying I don’t think he can, but also knowing that makes me hesitant about having him officiate. I think my mom would be willing but I’m not really sure.

Ok I have had this situational well I asked a pastor that I know for a long time but then I didn't consider my FH feelings. We was supposed to have a marriage counseling session with him but just never booked a date time with. So that seemed to be a no. Then as we talked it over we wanted someone who already knew both of us and did not have to retell our story on how we met and etc. So then I had asked a relative and she has already been ordained and we both are comfortable with her and she knows us from top to bottom. She agreed and we agreed and now have started our marriage counseling. Now since you have already mentioned about your mom religious beliefs so just stay with the friend who is already excited and is doing the online class to do it for you. And not to add to much pressure for you mom just let her be the mother of the bride. And have great wedding

View Quoted Comment Thanks Monique! What about his divorce? Do you think that makes a difference?

View Quoted Comment Hey imani girl his divorce does really mean anything because we have pastors who been divorced and remarried. If you fill that you are having doubts then I think you should weigh them out. But he is a friend and you had asked first to do this as a favor for you just talk to him about. There may ppl on this earth that have far more sinister than his divorce. ❤❤

View Quoted Comment The divorce shouldn't impact his ability to officiate the wedding. There are many reasons why a marriage might not work out, and just because his didn't work out, doesn't mean that yours will be cursed if he officiates. I wouldn't use his divorce as a reason why you don't want him to officiate.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I get that. I just kinda feel that it’s a little weird that he’s going through it now and not saying divorce people can’t marry but I am second guessing. I want to have a conversation with him but I also don’t want him to be offended. 😩

View Quoted Comment Thanks Lisa, this does put things in perspective for me.

View Quoted Comment Yes you bring up a valid point and your feelings is tapping at you so yes talk to him and hope that he understands that. I k how you guys were just excited when you oh initially asked him. You will be great you got this girl👍🏽

View Quoted Comment Thank you Monique!

View Quoted Comment You welcome

Since you have already asked the friend, stick with him. The divorce is irrelevant.


Is it common in your social circles for guests to get up to read? In ours, that is part of the officiant’s script. Let mom enjoy herself as a guest if she decides to attend.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Michelle! I think I will just stick with my first mind. Bc I don’t want to make him feel bad nor get my feelings hurt by my mom if she does say no.

As long as him going through a divorce isn't going to impact what he says (meaning he can put aside his own pain and possible negative feelings and focus on the joyous occasion) his divorce should have no impact on your special day. I think if you want your mom to do it maybe have them both officiate and assign them each special part to take care of in the ceremony. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thanks a lot Rosebud!!!

Since you already asked your friend to be officiant, I'd keep him as your officiant.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Amanda!