Mom Won’t Make Rehearsal

I'm sorry she's hurting you.

Big hugs. Family stuff is difficult and often disappointing. Wishing you all of the joy on your wedding day and in your marriage.

I'm sorry. But, I'm so happy to hear your dad is supportive! That's awesome.

Aww Imani I m sorry that sucks your mom isn't being supportive. I hope venting helped, do it anytime you need to. Your dad sounds awesome definitely lean into that support. Sending you lots of love and virtual hugs. Hope something really fun/sweet happens to cheer you up today!

I relate to this so much. Even though my mom and I are in general close, I've never felt like she's excited about my engagement. Not in the way she would be if I were marrying a man in a traditional ceremony. She's present, but not enthusiastic. I know my mom loves me, and she loves my partner, but I think she'll always be disappointed that I'm not living the life she imagined for me, and wanted for me.

I also know it would be hugely counterproductive to talk to her about it, because she'd deny everything and also then it would be weird.

Hang in there. You're not alone.

I'm sorry. That's so tough when a family member, especially a parent, puts you in these situations. We always hope that no matter what, our parents and our siblings will be there for us and share in our excitement. And when they disappoint us, it always hurts more.

Its truly wonderful that your dad is so excited for you and jazzed about the whole thing! Really embrace that and just let his love wash all over you.

Also know that sometimes, family isn't blood, but who you choose. You're about to start a new life with your partner whom you love. That's your family. Any children you have - either already or plan to have with them if you decide to have children - you'll be able to experience these special moments with them and know that you will do everything you can so that they don't feel the disappointment you're feeling now.

Don't let your mom's lack of enthusiasm ruin any of these last days for you, whether that's your rehearsal or your actual wedding day. Embrace all the people who are showing you love and excitement and let their joy encompass you. Make their joy your own protective bubble, blocking out anyone who may feel a certain way about any decisions you've made.

And remember - you get to marry your best friend and that's just really freaking awesome.

I'm sorry she's not showing the interest that you would have liked. That's hurtful for sure. I agree with you, those moments matter.