Moms wearing the same dress?

The dress is non returnable and she doesnt have the funds to buy another dress. Thats why I suggested a jacket, she paid over $300 for the dress. I can find tons of jackets under that.

Thats alright, I edited the post to add it because I realized I forgot it and knew thats what everyone would say if only it was that easy.

It is funny that they ended up with the same dress. Im starting to realize that with a wedding, if something can go wrong, it will and its driving me nuts! lol.

Wow! That's bizarre and kind of amusing. Are they similar to each other in other ways? I couldn't imagine my FMIL picking out my mom's dress.

It's a little unusual but it's one of those details that seems big now but really isn't. They should just own in with confidence and it will look fine. Guests might even come away thinking it was a creative idea.

Your fmil should have waited until after your mom bought her dress. I think it's very weird. If it were my mom and fmil, it would turn into a "who wore it better" fiasco.

I would think that if your mom is offering to buy a different dress, go with that.

My two grandmothers had the same dress for my parents' wedding. It was not done on purpose, and they actually did not realize it until the day of the wedding when it was too late to worry about it. Of course I was not there, but I have seen pictures and you almost don't notice it since my grandmothers were both built very differently. If your moms can change up a few details it would be nice, but I don't think it is worth the expense of changing the dresses.

I actually think it's kind of cute, if they get along and could own it lol. But if theres any chance it would turn into a competition then I would just go with your mom buying a new dress if she offered. I think just a new jacket would work well also.

I'd just let both of them know they have the same dress and they can communicate what they want to do. I wouldn't bother yourself with it, they're grown they can figure it out.

i don't think there is anything wrong with them wearing the same dress. Mine ended up with the same color but different dresses.

I agree with Eleanor but its all on what are they comfortable with. If it makes your mom uncomfortable a d she wants a new dress then I say she go for it but if neither of them care I don't think it's a bad thing.

Traditionally mother of the bride selects her dress first so I think it is up to your FMIL to modify hers.

Not to semi throw a wrench.. but technically your mom is supposed to get first dibs at the dress. So in actuality his mom should change her dress.

How detailed is the dress? Do you have a pic? If the dress is simple, it may be possible to change up the accessories so they look different. Technically, your mom should have first dibs on the dress, but I don't think people over the age of ten should be calling dibsies. It's about working out a compromise.

My mom, MIL, and GMIL all showed up at my wedding in black, sparkly pantsuits. It wasn't planned that way, but it actually looks semi-intentional in the photos. (Though don't get me started on GMIL walking down the aisle holding her purse, a la Sophia in the Golden Girls.)

Ok, how cool is it that, without knowing, they both got the same dress? It's an uncanny coincidence. To me, that would show that they are on the same 'wavelength' so to speak and it would be one of those funny quirky things that will be funny years from now.

Since the time is the present, however, and your mom isn't happy, can she sell the dress on wedslist, craigslist or ebay and find another one online? Does FMIL have the funds to get another dress? Does FMIL know the dresses are the same?

Worst case: they dress alike. And you know what? I don't think it will be awkward for photos at all. If your mom doesn't like the jacket and she doesn't have money for a new dress, she's in a tough spot. Have the dress altered or get a new one. Or wear it. Those are the only choices.

I agree with the ladies who are suggesting your FMIL change her dress. People hate etiquette so much, but if it had been followed in this instance, you wouldn't have a problem-- your mom would have picked her dress, shown it to your FMIL, who then would have been free to pick her dress. Now they're going to look like the Bobsey Twins. . .

I get that it's non refundable... But maybe the store will let one come in and swap it for a different color or dress for the same or lower price? I would show up with whoever bought it second and try to swap it. If the associate says no, ask to speak with a manager (nicely) and explain the situation. I've worked in retail and we generally would work with people and do what we can.

The only way it could be worse is what happened at a wedding I officiated.

The groom's mother & step-mother both showed up in the EXACT same dress! Since they had similar taste in men (groom's father), I guess it was bound to happen. No, it was not planned!

This happened to my brother's mom (our real mom gave him up for adoption, I just met him in 2007), and my SILs mom. There was no communication between any of them. They both showed up to the wedding, same dress...and get this, same SHOES too. I keep track of the dresses my mom, FMIL and my stepmom pick out and share all of the photos with them so this doesn't happen.

Perhaps go back to the store and explain the situation nicely like another person said. You never know what they'll do when you treat them with respect. If all else fails, one of them can sell their dress and buy another if it's that big of a deal. However, if they want to wear the same dress, let them rock it!

Let them duel it out. Whoever is left standing gets the dress! Haha!

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