*Monday rant* Need advice uninviting former bridesmaid

Like this: "AHEM. Consider yourself free for other entertainment on 11-9-13 since you won't be at my wedding."

B*tch, you be out.

I would very much like to curse her out. I know uninviting people is frowned upon up here but I am sick of her s**t. There is no reason she's put me through so much damn drama. FH said I shouldve cut her out of the equation ages ago.

FYI this is the same chick who begged me to be in the wedding.

Would it be better to call her to say this or should I just let the cards lay where they fall and not say anything to her?

Silence never solves anything. Just call her.

Send her polite just so we're clear, you are no longer invited to our wedding, you don't have time for her drama, cut the strings and be done with her!

@Out the Window I don't want there to be any confusion about our friendship. That part is done and dead. For someone who begged ME to be a part of the wedding to act like this is ridiculous. I messaged her last week to find out if she was still coming to the bachelorette party and she had an attitude. Its nothing but headaches when I call her.

Call her and if she doesn't pick up then email her saying, I just tried to call you but I need to tell you this now. YOU OUT!

I'd tell her very nicely that you are sorry but you don't think she is fit for the role, so yeah.....

She just saved me $500 and some grey hairs. I'm actually really happy that I saw that message. I gave her too many opportunities to do the right thing and she acted like a jerk the entire time. I really have no desire to hear her voice at this point. I'm completely disgusted.

LadyCrystal I'm sorry to say but just simply tell her not to worry about being in your wedding anymore.

@Ashley she's already out of the wedding. I am uninviting her from the wedding/reception. I don't want her or her drama there. I didn't ask her to be in the wedding because she is one of those misery loves company people. She guilt trupped me using the excuse that we have been friends for over 10 years. We have been friends for that long but she does this once a year. We generally go 6 months each year without speaking. This is nothing new. I'm just sick of it after all this time and I'm ending the cycle.

You have a very legit reason for taking her out of the wedding, even guest status: tell her simply & firmly, "I want people at my wedding who support & love me, you clearly do not". If she plays dumb, then go into detail about all the stupidity cards she's played. But otherwise this is your choice, & it's a wise one.

The only time it's frowned upon for uninviting I think is when it's not a legit reason i.e. you dont like someone's plus one.... Yours is perfectly good reasoning. She's playing dumb? Aint nobody got time for dat!!!

This is your day and you want it to be happy and filled with people who are their to support you and your new beginning. You don't want to look back on your wedding day and have it be tied to any kind of drama. A good friend of mine endured drama with her MOH, and her FH kept telling her to cut her loses. She was a good person and kept being the bigger person. At her wedding her MOH told her off and caused all kinds of drama. I say cut your loses now. It will be painful, but keep your dignity when you do it and then move on. Don't let anyone spoil your special day, or mark it with their drama and bad vibes. Just my 2 cents.

You can say something like: "I know you're going through a lot and I hope things get better for you. I think it's best if you just take this time to work on getting things together for yourself. We'll catch up after I return from my honeymoon".

That way you're not stooping to her level of misery. You're putting everything back on her, and you get your way all in a nice neat little package.

BOOM!

@Nafina I made a screenshot of the entire crazy conversatin where she blamed everyone but herself for her reasoning for not getting fitted before she flipped it on me and said well i guess I will do you a favor and not be a part of the wedding since I stress you out so much -_- you should've heard the scream i let out when I read that LOL

@Norcal Bride I would be utterly disgusted if she did that. I've already kept anyone who would cause major drama on that day off of my guest list. She is the last one. Its time to cut my losses.

@HeWasHeavenSent That is awesome. I just need to figure out how to send that to her. I haven't sent her any message in a week so IDK if sending her that without explaining to her why i'm saying it will work.

You could do it in the form of a little jingle or poem:

I know you've turned into a recluse

For this is the part you have been dreading

So I'll save you one more excuse

Please don't bother coming to my wedding.

@ECM ROFLLLLLLLLLL!!! FH loves that one!

@ECM...I love it!!!

@ECM any way to add you are a bad friend in there?