Hi Everyone,
My fiance has always had an okay at best relationship with his parents. Things between them have gotten a lot better in the last year but it seems like he has been walking on egg shells regarding our wedding. My father recently had a stroke and is not getting his full pay checks and my mother does not make a whole lot of money but they have been really trying to make the best wedding for me with what we can. I am doing most of the decoration and planning by myself and spend so much time on trying to make sure I am getting the best prices and doing so much research before I decide.
My fiance's parents are definitely more well off but in the same respect tend to be very cheap. We have asked very little as far as helping pay for things even though I know it would help us out a lot more if they would offer. They have paid our fee for our ceremony and only other thing they are helping us with is the alcohol. We talked to them yesterday about a rough price for only one of the options but we are waiting for a list of all the packages and pricing. His parents got pretty wound up about it. They then continued on about some of the prices we are paying for other things which where we are located we have done amazing finding packages for cheap and so on. Conversations like this have been happening often and started making me feel extremely bad and frustrated because we have not asked for much from them. My fiance and I have had conversations in the past but yesterday I finally had to beg him to talk to his parents and try to make them understand we are looking for our cheapest options and financially it is not easy for myself or my parents.
He talked to her this morning trying to have her understand which she then decided they would not be paying for anything. He texted her to try to get her to understand which then made her feel the need to text me. She told me i needed to "reel" him in and that she will not be "abused' or talked to like this or be told she was not invited to the wedding. I had read the message he had sent and I had my mom read them and we do not feel like what he said was in any shape or form mean or rude nor did he say she could not come. His parents live on the other side of the country so it is pretty much impossible to have a conversation with them.
Has anyone else run into a problem like this? or anything similar? I have no clue as to how to handle this or what to even respond to his mother. I obviously would like them to be at the wedding but I have no idea how to even start to fix this.
Thank you so much in advance! Have to love families!
EDIT: His parents from the very beginning have asked what we need help with and asked for things so they can start planning and helping.