Money as gift

Please don't ask your guests for money. If you don't have a registry and your guest want to give you a gift they will default to cash. If anyone asks where you are registered you can say you aren't registered anywhere and that you are saving up for a house. They will get the hint.

Just dont have a registry. It's never polite to ask outright for gifts. You could have a parent spread by mouth that you're saving for a home.

Just don't register and ppl will give you money. You don't ask for cash.

Like the above said, plus don’t put it on your invitations.

You'll find a lot of people on here don't like asking for money at weddings. As a wedding guest I see cash or honeymoon funds at most weddings I go to nowadays though, and I think it's a "know your circle" decision. You can either (a) create a cash fund online through a website like Zola or The Knot that you link to on your wedding website, (b) include a line on your details card (not on the invitation itself) about how you aren't doing a traditional registry but if guests wish they can contribute towards a down payment, or (c) not register in the hopes that guests will give you cash.

To answer your question about cash registries... Zola allows you to have a cash registry where your guests can contribute to a cash fund. Your guests can contribute to it if they want, if they find it tacky they can just give you cash in a card. I have not used a cash registry so I’m not sure how it works 100% but it basically just says “contribute what you wish” and guests can put money on there or will get the hint you want cash and put it in a card.

There is no good way to put it on the invitation. I understand where you're coming from, I really do. We didn't need anything, we preferred money of course, but there is no nice way to ask. Most people giving cash or checks anyway. At our wedding three weeks ago we only had two people bring gifts. In our card box was 3 checks, two gift cards and the rest was all cash. You don't have to ask, most will just go that route. I wouldn't register anywhere, that will help get the message across. That's what we did

I have seen people create cash funds where they would write that it's towards their future dream home

Many people say don’t ask for money. However, in our culture, it’s normal to expect money. I still put it on my web site that says something like if you wish to donate to our honeymoon fund, please make check payable to...

Just skip the registry at the website and people will get the hint , it's rude to put it on the invitations, and you can tell your parents so they can spread the word when people ask them what to get you!

You can ask in a subtle way. This is what we inserted with our invitations.