Money Dance vs. Honeymoon Fund Jar

If I were at a friends wedding I wouldn't pay to dance with them and I wouldn't put money in a honeymoon fund for them... I spend money on an outfit and a gift and travel if it is OOT. I would never want to ask my guests to spend even more money. If a dollar dance is normal for your group then that is different, but its not something done in my area. I have never been to a wedding with either the dance or the money jar!!!

I think both is not a good idea.. Like someone else said its like begging for money.. We didn't do it and we got money anyway even though we registered at two different places..

My mom INSISTS that I do a "dollar dance" because apparently that is what is expected from me. I think that its something that her family does, but I haven't seen anyone in NC do it at any of the weddings I've attended (my family is from MI) and I think my inner southern girl is appalled at the idea. I told my mom I'm not a stripper I don't dance for money (lol) and it feels like begging and puts pressure on your guests. but I might end up doing it anyways because that's what all of our extended family is anticipating.

About your original question though...if the dollar dance is the social norm go for it. The jar is questionable. The jars for the cake smashing thing is kind of cute but personally I don't want cake smashed on my professional makeup so that could backfire! If people want to give you $$ they will bring it to you in a card, so have a card box of some sort on the gift table.

It's a traditional thing where I was born (Nigeria). I didn't even know other people did it haha

What about instead of a "honeymoon jar", What if the sign said " Bless us with happiness and fortune" $1 equals one year of wedded bliss! Thoughts??