Money registry?

I seem to be unable to edit this post but now I regret posting it because I know the internet is the wrong place to talk openly about money matters even though I'm sure I'm not the only one in this position I know many people will have something negative to say about my post

First: wedding wire will not let you delete a post ever so always be careful posting.
Second there's a lot of posts on this and it's actually becoming popular to ask for money instead of gifts, especially as many people live together before marriage. It's not a problem really.
There's honeyfund and Zola as the top two, Zola allows people to buy gift cards to places. They take a percentage of the money though. Overall people are stubborn and will prefer a physical gift, if you think you'll need tools for a renovation I'd list those, maybe update a few kitchen appliances just incase.

If you don't register or have a very small registry, most people will give you cash

If I were you, I would just not register. Or if you do, register for gift cards for Home Depot or Lowe’s, or for things you would need for the renovation.

It is okay. Don't fret about it. I have a honeymoon registry. Most of my family took it really well and thought it was a great idea. I have a small physical registry for things we need on our travels. I like this idea, my cousin had a physical registry, but I gave her cash cause it was easier, and they wrote in their thank you card that all the money they received was going towards a down payment on their future house. Which sounds way better instead of having a bunch of items they might use. My other cousin and her FH had a tiny apartment and a huge registry, still to this day they have that small apartment with all the items they received, I'm sure some are still in boxes or storage.

You could register for home Depot gift cards

I'd probably do a Zola registry. You can register for gift cards and a cash fund. Consider also have a small registry of physical gifts if there's anything you'd like to upgrade. One thing to keep in mind for cash registries is that there is always a fee associated with them, but if you go through Zola and The Knot the fee only covers the credit card transaction fee (and the company does not profit off the transactions whatsoever).

Just don't register and dont' have a bridal shower - people will definitely give you cash/checks!

Thanks for the thoughts and suggestions!! Really appreciate nobody going the “you’re rude for asking for money” route which is what I was scared of!