Money Showers?!

It's also called a green shower. I would never in a million years do that

Ewwww I would never do that, I'd be more inclined to give them a toaster and write over the box to Jennifer love ashley

I’ve heard a lot about this. People are doing this to raise money for the wedding or honeymoon. I felt uncomfortable doing this personally... I barely felt right getting all those gifts. I guess I understand trying to pay for a wedding etc but no thanks.. not for me

I've never been. I still don't understand how asking for money as a gift is bad etiquette. You register for a gift that has an associated monetary value, that's okay. But it isn't okay to just ask for that monetary value. It is such a huge contradiction.

View Quoted Comment THIS!! Hahaha etiquette is stupid and people follow it because someone (we have no clue who) said something is proper etiquette lol. This is the exact same thing I’ve been saying on soooo many posts here. It’s the SAME thing. IF you bring a gift it is ok to tell you what I would prefer. You can choose to bring nothing, small monetary amount or large monetary amount still some options there haha.

View Quoted Comment I think it’s because when you give a gift, you know what the money is going to. If you just give money, you have no idea what they’re going to spend it on, and it might be something that you don’t agree with.

Plus, I think of the person when I use my gifts. I think of my sister when I use my waffle maker, of my aunt when I use my blender, etc. I think this is another reason people like to give gifts. Money isn’t at all sentimental

View Quoted Comment Material items aren't sentimental to me. Also it isn't up to the person giving the gift to agree with what gift a person buys. If I give you money as a gift, what you do with said money isn't my concern anymore.

Ew. Just ew.

The only time I was okay with it was a cousin of my husband was in town for the first time if about 10 years, so the family threw her a small shower. Since she was flying home the next day they did a gift card shower. Said please no boxes gifts, just gift cards. I was fine with that.

View Quoted Comment 100% agree!!! I know my circle better that whomever set etiquette rules. I know what will offend them and what won't. Had someone say on here that wedding makeup is supposed to be classic and timeless. I said who says? Response was its just the way its supposed to be. Don't understand why people have a problem with other people doing what makes them happy.

Ya, it's not a "new trend"... it's an etiquette disaster. FMIL wanted to do this for us and we both cringed. FH shut it down on the spot. It's rude, tacky, and absolutely not. I would decline.

As for why it's rude to ask for money but not a gift, maybe it's b/c the shower is to set up/ prepare the couple for a new life together. Now people don't stay in their parents house and even live together, so they have everything. If you have everything, you don't need to be set up with gifts??

View Quoted Comment This has been explained on here a million times. Having a registry isn’t asking for gifts, it’s giving people a guide if they want to get you a gift. There is literally no need to ask for money because everyone knows you would like money. Everyone likes money! I had a traditional shower and still got many monetary gifts in the form of Amazon gift cards, there was no need to ask for it.

Also, gifts can be separated from their monetary value. We’ve gotten some wonderful gifts under $30 that we use frequently. But if you’re having a “money shower” (ew) then it becomes well this person only gave me $25, while this person gave me $100. I’ve said on here over and over that it’s nice to have a registry for people who can’t afford to give much. When I was right out of college, a few of my cousins got married. I got them nice personalized picture frames for $30-40 while I would’ve been slightly embarrassed to hand them a check for that amount.

I've never heard of it, but it's very rude!

I've been to 2 "money bridal showers". It's the latest way to get money for the couple's choices in their home, wedding or trip. I will say there's no gift opening time and we ate played 3 games and mostly talk about the wedding choices she had made so far. One had her guests vote a color for the wedding and added it to her plain white decor.

Definitely don't do this.

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Oh yeah I definitely agree — if you give money as a gift, you can't say what to do with it. But I think that's one reason people don't like to give money.

One example in my head is my cousin — he never spends money! He's 21 and doesn't have any expenses (still lives with parents), and all the money anyone has ever given him disappears into his savings account, never to be seen again by any of us. While this is a really good quality to have in a person, my family wants to give him things he will actually use! So they always try to find out what he actually needs — and they still give him a little money cause that's what he really wants.

This "new trend" is a way for people to justify being rude and money hungry.
I would never have a shower like this. Obviously my husband and I totally loved it when we got gifts of cash but to specifically ask people to only bring cash is like you asking me to fund your wedding. Don't have one if you can't afford it.

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This! A registry is to guide people so you don't end up with 20 toasters or dishware that doesn't match the color scheme of your kitchen. Everyone knows that money is a good gift and there is no worry about receiving duplicates. Also, many people can stretch their dollars by shopping sales, or using coupons to get a pricier registry item that still fits their budget. You can't do that with cash.

A lot of people say they don't need or want stuff but, often they are thinking of traditional registries. Now they can include a variety of items, not just kitchen items. Camping equipment, hobby items, electronics, home decor, board games, tools, BBQ equipment, luggage etc. are all items that you can register for. If there is still nothing the couple wants then they can decline showers (since these are to set a couple up) and they will likely get cash as a wedding present without asking for it.

It is a new trend that needs to die. I suggest that people don’t go or participate. People will get the hint when no one shows up for the shower. So rude and tacky.

I also don't understand the concept of don't do registries if you don't need stuff. So since we've been together for 15 years, decided to get married when we could afford to, after buying a house, we don't deserve gifts? That's basically what this means. You are responsible and have your life together so you don't need to register for any gifts. That's what this sounds like to me.

Yikes. I haven't heard of this trend, but it definitely rubs me the wrong way. What would you do at the shower? I wouldn't want to sit through the bride just opening cards and flaunting money.