Money Showers?!

WOW! I have never heard of that and I would never even feel comfortable asking people to just give me money.

Never heard of this, and I know I would never be okay with this!

No. Just no. This is not ok.

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That was me. That wasn't my response. My response was a a professional makeup artist, that is how we are trained to do bridal makeup but, it is up to the bride. Also, how you get your makeup done is not a etiquette issue so I'm not even sure why this is being brought back up. LOL Like, its your face. Do what you want but, people do tend to regret blue eyeshadow circa 1985 in their old wedding pictures. Trends come and go. That is the reason we are trained that way.

View Quoted Comment Lol I don’t know. I tend not to ever pose questions asking what’s ok and not ok because honestly I feel like that should be up to the bride and groom and then knowing their guest like you said. All the etiquette police can carry on and do what suits them. Whichever way you twist it it’s the same thing. People can bring money, gift cards or nothing. The key word is “IF” you choose to bring a gift we’d prefer money/gift cards. It’s not saying you have to bring money or you won’t be allowed in. Registry is the same....It is a guide to what you want.

I wouldnt feel comfortable asking for this.

I hope this doesn't become a trend....I agree. Tacky and rude.

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The reason it violates etiquette is because you aren't supposed to be asking for gifts at all. A registry is okay because it's a way of saying that if you are getting us a gift, this is what we'd like. But everyone already knows you like money, so a money registry doesn't have that function--and just comes across as gift grabby.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with both of you!! I’ve lives with my fiancé for like 4 years we don’t need towels or a damn toaster 😂

IMO, the bridal shower is to help set up the marital home. If you don’t need anything, then don’t have a shower.

View Quoted Comment If you are having a shower, gifts are expected. That registry linked to that shower reflects what the honoree wants and people select from that registry. A card would be included in the invite and say the couple is registered at so and so store which hints that you would like a gift. It is the same concept! If I have a money shower or choose to include a card in my invite that says IF you would like to give us a gift cash or gift card is preferred is the same as selecting different priced items for a registry and a person deciding if they would like to give you a small or larger monetary amount OR nothing. The same way you aren’t forcing anyone to get you a gift from that registry is the same way you aren’t forcing someone to give you cash. I’m sorry but the “etiquette” makes no sense to me. This etiquette is not a law so It is ok for us to disagree.

View Quoted Comment Lololol I hear you. I am opting not to have a shower because I do need things for my new home but I would prefer to buy them myself. Because honestly people still don’t stick to registries so I’d end up with a ton of stuff I don’t want and I think that should break some type of etiquette to offend somebody and not use what they purchased lol. It bothers me when other brides are basically told they are rude or tacky because their traditions or ideas don’t align with these etiquette rules.

I have never been to a bridal shower, let alone one where they just ask for money. Granted, we arent registering for anything, but were nto ask8ng for money either. We will put on our page that we arent registered, so they dont have to gift us anything but if they want to give us something, money towards our honeymoon would be appreciated but its not necessary. Their presence is enough.

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YESSSS! As long as you ask/write it to be respectful and not rude! Also maybe don't label it anything other then a wedding shower lol

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! It’s OK to ask for that $350 kitchen aid mixer with the $170 attachment, but not registering letting guests assume to gift money if they wish to do so is a big no no. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I’m not saying I’m right or wrong, but I don’t get it

View Quoted Comment Perfect, from a regular guest point of view I think that’s perfect

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I agree with you. If you do not agree with it then do not attend. But you can not be upset with the couple for asking for what they want. No different than you going out and buying a gift. Why end up with a bunch of stuff you do not want or can not use.

Soooo this is kind of off topic, but a similar situation. This week FH was invited to a “diaper and beer” party. I guess it’s where an expecting father gets his guy friends together and they all bring diapers for the baby and beer to drink at the party. Has anyone ever heard of this? Am I the only one that thinks this tacky and rude? I had never heard of this because it’s not a thing in my family and friend groups. I guess it just seems like if you can’t afford diapers don’t have a kid? Idk. Maybe there is something more to it I’m not getting...

View Quoted Comment Thats what I was thinking. I was going to plan on it, seeing as how my fiance and I have been living together for 5 years and have everything we need. Why would it matter if someone just took what theyd spend on a gift towards honeymoon?

I would rather give someone money than a gift they don’t want or need. Now most people live together before they are married and have everything they need for their house. Doing a honeymoon registry doesn’t mean they can’t afford a honeymoon, it means they would rather you pay for an expierence they can enjoy together as a couple then a toaster or blender they don’t actually need. If they called it a money shower then that is a little tacky, but if it’s honeymoon registry it’s once again just a guide and doesn’t mean you have to buy a gift.