So I have a mother who is out of her mind. back story My fiance and I are paying for our entire wedding ourselves. While saving for an house and raising 8 kids. We would never take away from the kids for our wedding. With 8 kids our tax return is around 16,000 a year so that is how we are paying for our wedding plus anything we save per month. So my sister is the golden child and I am more of the black sheep. My sister's wedding was 9 years ago and I am constantly reminded that it was the best wedding my mom has ever been too. So my fiancé and I are head over hills in love with our venue and almost have it paid off. sorry for rambling. Today I was talking to my mother and she asked how much our wedding is costing and I told her that it was costing us what we can afford. She mentioned that we should get married at a church and then have the reception at the local VFW hall. Insert eye roll I told her NO!!! She then said your not going to be playing country music are you. my fiance and I are country music fans so is 90 percent of our guests. and were only planning on having 3. songs that are not country being played. Billy Joel Piano man and Bob Seager old time rock and roll and Shout. This pissed my mom off and she is threatening not to come. Because she thinks we should have music from 50's and 60's playing constantly. Then she said along the lines of she will be disappointed if I try to make my wedding better then my sisters, I am not trying to compete or out do my sisters wedding that was 9 years ago. We are just having a wedding that we want. If it were up to me I would be going to Vegas however my fiancé wants the big wedding. I am also very emotional from being 2 weeks after having my still born son so my emotions are all over. However I don't want to deal with my mom and her ideas. how do you keep boundaries regarding wedding planning. when I am already saying no and telling her a little as possible? and also I am afraid that my mom is going to complain or create drama on our wedding day. Its like I am planning a wedding and spending money just for her to ruin it.
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