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Ruth
Just Said Yes September 2024

Mother in Law Drama

Ruth, yesterday at 2:21 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 3
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So, our wedding is 75 days away. When we first started wedding planning, my fiancé's mom told my mother that she would be able to contribute around $1000 to help with the wedding. Now that we are 75 days away, she has yet to contribute to the wedding like she said she would, while my mom & dad have put forth over $4,000 already (I have also put in around $1,000). Whenever I ask her about it, I rarely get a response. I just don't want to come across as whiney or a jerk, but it just feels like my parents are more involved in our wedding than my fiancé's parents are. It also feels a bit unfair to my fiancé as well. Any suggestions?

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Latest activity by Rae, today at 10:50 AM
  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    I would let go of the idea that she's obligated to contribute. That's not really a thing. We kind of always advise not to count on the money until it's in hand. I'd go ahead as if she's not contributing, and plan what you can currently afford with your budget. Can you two pick up extra work to make up for the budget shortfall?

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  • Ruth
    Just Said Yes September 2024
    Ruth ·
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    I have lately been working 2 jobs & am paying for most of the vendors, while my mom has been setting money aside to cover any costs in case my fiance & I can't pay for something. It's just a bit frustrating as we were under the assumption that she was going to help with something for the wedding.
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  • R
    Rockstar June 2018
    Rae ·
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    If you've already asked and not received money, assume you aren't going to. If she ends up gifting you a check then that will be a bonus. It is *your* wedding. Just because your parents are generously contributing does not mean his parents are obligated to. You and FH should be the ones paying for the remaining costs.

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