So I'm getting married in less than 20 days. I got engaged earlier this year and it was nice at first. But, once the wedding planning started getting further along, drama erupted with my fiancé and his mom and sister. they never have tried to have ANY sort of relationship with me over the course of 3 years of us dating. they make every encounter awkward as possible, and leave me out of conversations/ never ask about me/etc. Regardless of their mean girl behavior towards me, I've always tried keeping my chin up and being kind to them.
So, we get heavy into wedding planning and expenses are adding up. my fiance's mother is not asking about the wedding or even acting like she cares about it. my fiancé finally confronts her saying we could use some help financially (because my mom has been paying for the entire wedding and she is a single mom and my sister is also pregnant so its been extremely hard on my mom) and she just blew up on him. she made up a lie and said that I "apparently" called her something bad and that she just happened to hear it through the grapevine somehow. my fiancé asked if this were true and I was like ummm of course not ?!??! I would NEVER say that about his mother. he knew I wouldn't either, and he called her out on it. she really did not like that. then she said it would be best for her to not come to our wedding, they didn't speak for a while, and now all of a sudden she wants to come and I assume "fix" what she has messed up. I'm happy that she is doing that, however, she has not apologized to me for making up such an awful lie about me. she hasn't reached out to me in any way what so ever. now our wedding is in 18 days and I haven't seen her in months. I'm having so much anxiety about what our wedding day will be like. I can't handle her drama anymore. I don't like that she makes my fiancé depressed/stressed out. I hate that we are already getting off on a bad note. I never imagined this happening to my fiancé and I, but here we are....
anyone have any advice on how to deal with this or maybe has a similar situation? just curious. I really just wanted to vent because my fiancé is way beyond stressed to talk about it anymore (which stinks tbh). this has really put a damper on his mood and its caused him to have a lot of depression during what is supposed to be a beautiful and fun time in our lives. I just hate that this has been going on. I feel like I'll forever resent his mother for being such a mean person for no reason at all and ruining our wedding experience.
*sigh*
signed, hopeless/stressed/worried bride-to-be!
