Mother In Law Drama

Well what was said?

At the end of the day, you can't change her behavior. But you can change yours. You need to be more forgiving of her. When she starts acting up, be polite, but firm. Throwing a tantrum and leaving isn't the answer. Standing up for yourself, in a firm manner and saying you will not tolerate being treated this way is appropriate. I'm not sure which you did- and you need to take a good hard look at your actions and make that decision for yourself.

She may feel threatened by you because you the main woman in her son's life. I'd start by telling her you aren't trying to replace her, or take away any value from the relationship that she and her son have- however, you expect to be treated with respect and dignity and will return the same to her. Regardless of your differences, you are the man her son has chosen to spend his life with. He is happy, and you will do everything you can to make him happy. Tell her that someday you hope she can see that and treat you accordingly.

I knew I would have to put that lol

His address is under his aunts house and she brought him a bunch of mail and this one was a hospital bill that was sent from an ER visit. She asked me cause I had the bill in my hand "How much was it" I told her how much it was I said "Its 2100, these hospital bills are outragous I cant believe that one visit to the ER for feeling sick is so much, I just got one totaling 2600, its crazy!" She then said with a real attitude "Did I ask you how much your bill was? no I didnt, I asked how much my sons bills was!!" And I just got all defensive and said "Yeah I told you" and just lost it.

Mind you this women tells me every little stupid detail about people I dont know or care about but I listen and to try to have a convo her and get that reaction for no reason I just broke down and left.

Am I being too emotional or is that just seriously rude??

Well how long have thing been this way between the two of you? If its been like this for a while then i could understand the break, enough is enough. But at the same time i agree with Meghan. You need to talk to her about it. Try and see why shes acting this way and tell her you hope the two of u can have a good relationship in the future because flat out your marrying her son, so you two will have to deal with each other the rest of your lives. Me and my FMIL have issues from time to time but for the most part we'r very close. Sometime si just have to tell myself "I'm going to be apart of this family and i dont want to deal with problems the rest of my life. So even if i think i'm right and want to duke it out, i must compose myself and talk to her like a lady."

Meghan, I didnt do either and I had to leave because I was in tears and that may sound corny but its just one of those lil after lots of big things that just broke me. I had to leave cause literally as soon as I hit that door I lost it.

And I have tried to have a relationship with her I mean she treated her daughter and family step sons and their families all for a family disney world trip and didnt even ask her own son well except to dog sit, we look past that have invited her to dinner, bbqs, and even phillies tickets for her fav team and she never wants to plus she just always throws in these little digs and I just had enough.

I also have a little temper so at times I need to walk away before I say something I really shouldnt.

Chelsea, its been since we met, sometimes shes nice shell call me and its fine but then she says just straight out rude shit that makes me lose my mind, like the time she told me we shouldnt try to have kids because Im 35 and my kids would all be retarded cause Im so old, like really I dont get how she can be nice one minute and then just be a real bitch the rest of the time.

I will tell you- I have family issues. I, too, am often the one left out stuff. FH didn't get it at first, though my family loves him... Heck, they like him more than me.

So, I understand that family dynamics are screwy... That's why I say- you can't control what she does. You can only control what you do. And stuff adds up. Sounds like it's time to have a firm conversation- since you've let alot of the little things go up until now.

Or, just accept that his family sucks, stop extending the invitations to them for events and move on with your life with poeople who treat you well and love you both!

Yeah thats where Im at now but dont want him to hate me for it even tho it was his decison to leave and not stay with them but he know I would never stop him from them no matter how much their idiots lol

I also understand what you mean, we joke all the time how my FH is my parents 2nd fav kid after my brother lol