Hey everyone. As if 2020 couldn't get any better, right?
I live in Illinois. Our wedding is at the end of August. We just got permission to move into phase 4 and luckily my venue is indoor/outdoor and is making accommodations to make our wedding happen with more than 50 people. I finally got some good news after 3 months of worrying about postponing. This whole time, my future mother-in-law has been crying and so upset about possibly postponing the wedding, which was actually sweet. She wanted us to be able to get married and it seems like we're going to be able to.
So we get the go-ahead but the problem now is that the country club we booked our shower at is staunchly sitting at only 50 people (which is fine). So I ran the idea of having two showers, one for his side of family/friends and one for my family/friends to split the number of people and keep it below 50 people. My FMIL jumped at this since she's a big party person and immediately volunteered to host.
Welp... no sooner than she volunteered, she started complaining about the number of people. Then she got all upset that someone could be bringing the virus in. Then it's so much work to put this party on and she's so stressed out. It's been nothing but drama.
The newest thing, and most upsetting, is: she looked at our registry. Apparently having only about 70 items on your registry is offensive since there's about 75 people invited between both showers. She thought it was tacky that we asked for gift cards to Home Depot and set up a honeymoon fund. My fiance stood his ground on those. She texted me yesterday and told me I have to put cheaper towels on the registry. She literally texted me "Add more towels and sheets to your registry from Target." She's mad that the Zola registry is showing the full prices instead of what the actual prices are, and apparently our towel selections from Macy's are showing up at $36 instead of their actual $12. When my fiance called her to say that we chose nicer things because we're both 30, have had our first places, and really only want to upgrade some things rather than add a ton of items since we have what we need... she freaked out at him. She told him she's "embarrassed" by our registry and she refuses to send out invites until we "fix it". So, now I don't know whether there's going to be the other shower and I have no idea what to do about it.
I'm struggling here, everyone. I'm trying to let my fiance take care of it, but he's such a sweet guy that he usually gives in to her demands. I'm straddling between choosing my battles and setting boundaries with his mother. And after trying to be optimistic about this wedding for over 3 months of a global pandemic, I'm at my wit's end.