First off my parents are paying for the majority of the wedding. In laws have been more than helpful enough with offering to pay for added bonuses which I appreciate greatly. We agreed on 100 guests max. When the guest list was made, my fiance's side had almost 70. My FMIL said that there were invitations for people that she knew weren't going to come but she wanted to send them anyways, family members that no one has communicated with in years. So I let it go figuring why make a big deal out of it.
Around 2 weeks ago, FMIL asked me if it was ok to invite 4 more guests. Her reasoning, she "knows" there are guests that were invited that won't be attending. I said ok, believing her.
Fast forward to now, we have 2 weeks left for RSVPs to come back. And surprisingly enough, the people who FMIL didn't think would RSVP yes, did. I wasn't too worried about going over our number, BUT now I'm slightly stressing.
Yesterday my mom got a text from FMIL saying 2 more people she didnt think were going to come (family) contacted her saying they were sending their RSVP in and asked if their kid could come too. (Note- kid isn't a kid, they're over 21) FMIL told my mom she said yes to their "kid" being able to come as well. I was pissed. I calmly explained things to FH, how his mom had gone over the alotted number of guests to invite, how I have family members that aren't getting plus ones (my brother and closest cousin don't have gf's at the moment), how my brothers best friend was invited alone and asked if he could bring his gf of 1 month and I said no, and how when it comes down to it-my parents are paying for the majority of the wedding. FH was more than understanding of my reasons while I was sobbing "I just dont want to sound like a ____"
FH said he was going to yell at his mom, I told him I wanted to talk to her. So I talked to her with FH and she listened but I dont feel she was happy with me. She claims she's still going to be under her number of guests, but as of now ONLY 2 people have rsvp'd no. I just can't stop thinking about it and I know that it's going to be awkward the next time i see my FMIL and she most likely will bring everything up again.
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