Mother in law.........

You and your fiance should first get on the same page about the guest list. Have a conversation with him and come to an agreement about whether these extra people will be invited. If you and your fiance decide that you don't want to invite them, then your fiance should talk to his mom to tell her that you both decided not to invite them, and that the decision is final. But if you and your fiance aren't in agreement on what to do, it'll make it pretty difficult to resolve the issue.

I agree, you need to get on the same page with each other before dealing with MiL. Would it help talking about the cost of additional guests or logistics of seating? Some people deal better with solid things instead of feelings. Or just talk about the feeling you want to have from the wedding and those around you.


With MiL, I think you need to be firm on “This is the guest list and that’s it. I understand you love these people, but we only want people close to US there.” If you can’t get your fiance in a united front, it’s not going to go well.

View Quoted Comment So our wedding is in 52 days, he says the wedding is about us so he doesn’t care who’s invited at this point. Invites went out a month ago ish. His mom had offered to pay the plates of the people she continues to want to invite. My fiancé is all for it because they will also bring gifts.. so I ask if we are getting married just for random people to give us money? He is just not seeing it as I do. I want people we love there, not his mothers random employees, or 4th cousins no one talks to going. His mom does not take no for an answer he has told her no at least 3 times and she keeps pestering him about it. I feel it is getting disrespectful that she is not respecting his nos. And the only reason he is telling her no is because I’m saying no.