Hi all. Long time lurker here, first time poster. So I'm getting married in April, and I'm in the process of finalizing a lot of my bookings. I found a spray tan artist for the wedding and she was willing to also tan my bridal party, so I asked if my bridal party wanted to get a spray tan for the wedding, so that we could do it together as it would have been cheaper and easier. All of my bridesmaids accepted. I was talking about this to my sister, the mother of my junior bridesmaid and my flower girls, who has also been helping me plan the wedding. She said that the if the whole bridal party were getting spray tans, then so should the flower girls and the junior bridesmaid. My sister said that my nieces would want to get a spray tan for the wedding. She wanted me to book them in with our spray tan artist along with the bridesmaids, but she said if that was not possible, she could always arrange for them to get a spray tan with someone else.
The idea of my nieces getting spray tans never crossed my mind. They are 12 and 9 years old, I'd have thought that they were too young to get a spray tan. But my sister says that they get spray tans for dance competitions regularly. My sister also said that it wasn't uncommon for older flower girls and junior bridesmaids to get spray tans. I said that I was still doubtful of this idea. My sister did say that if I really opposed it then they wouldn't get a spray tan, as it was my wedding. I asked my junior bridesmaid, whether she would want to have a spray tan, and she said yes. I haven't asked my two flower girls yet, though I definitely will.
I know it is six months away but how should I approach this. I'm not that comfortable with the idea of my flower girls and junior bridesmaid getting a spray tan for the wedding, but do I actually have the right to straight up say no? Also is flower girls and junior bridesmaids getting a spray tan a common thing, and is it actually a good idea or at least not a bad idea?