Hi Everyone!
I'm looking for some advice on my mother. She is not paying for any of the wedding because she doesn't have money. My Dad, future inlaws, and grandparents are all chipping in (with my Fiance and I paying a lot too). We are having a short engagement (8 months total) so when I got engaged I booked the venue, photographer, hair, and makeup right away. My future inlaws helped pick out the caterer because they are paying for it.
So the issue is that my mother keeps getting upset that she isn't involved enough. I brought her with me to look at dresses (bridal) and my future mother in law too. She seemed upset that I invited my fiance's mom. She also didn't say anything about any of the dresses and looked upset the whole time. My fiance's mom also offered to make favors for the bridal shower and I said yes of course, but now my mom feels like everything is done and his mom has taken over. No other planning has been done, and every time I e-mail or text my mom and maid of honor about decoration ideas my mom doesn't respond. She said she doesn't have time to look up ideas. She asked if she could give a toast at the wedding and I said yes even though she is not technically hosting because she isn't paying for any of it. Apparently, she's upset because at the wedding my Dad gets a father-daughter dance and my FMIL gets a mother-son dance, but she gets to do nothing.
What jobs do I give my mother who has no money and no time? Help!