My mother has been very amendment that she wants her friends at my wedding because they have been apart of my life since I was a baby. Some of these people however i haven't seen in years. I don't want them there and i'm completely over it... honestly we have come to the point already where I going to tell her no and reimburse her for any of her purchases so that she has no say in who attends. Im ready to elope yall, honestly
She only brings it up when we are together and I live out of town so we are usually only in town for large family gatherings. Like birthdays, thanksgiving etc. So this thanksgiving in front of 20 other people my mother decided to bring up that besides the 6 friends that she has invited that she would like to invite 4 others. That she in no way imagine my wedding without her closest friends present... Of course my grandmother is sitting right across from us and took my mothers side and said that was a great idea, there answer for everything is that they will just pay for them to be there. Which if you estimate food, drinks, and dessert that's about 20 per person adding about 200-300 to our wedding for everything. My 70 person small wedding has multiplied and we are now almost at 100 people. At thanksgiving I completely ignored the conversation because I was not talking about that in front of 20 family members. I have told her no many times and it is obviously not clicking my father and I don't get along very well because when i have an issue he wont discuss and says I need to talk to her directly but honestly i just need someone other than me and my FH to tell her no..... Advice please honestly just want it over, this no longer feels like my wedding
