Mother of the groom drama

I’ve never understood these awful sounding self-centered, self-serving mother in laws. Like I don’t understand why there is so much drama surrounding their kids wedding. You had your time, mom now be there for your kid and his future wife. Jeez ! I’m sorry you’re going through that, that sounds like so much drama. Perhaps what she told you (she thought) was in confidence ? But if it was nasty or mean- I can’t expect that you wouldn’t tell your fiancé. The mother in law does not get to be mean to her daughter in law. They become part of the family when they marry your kid. I don’t have advice, just sorry you’re going through that. Also If she doesn’t come since she’s full of drama- might be a blessing in disguise...

She is just self absorbed ! If it’s not about her she likes to turn it in to being about her .... I can’t please everyone but I’m sure not pleading her on my wedding day to her son it’s a day about us not her

I'm having very similar issues with my fhs mother. She wants everything her way and but thinking about what we want. We try talking to her and all she does is cry and say we are being mean. The way I see it she's not paying for anything so our decisions are final.

Finally somone whogets it

Hi Kirstie! I am sorry you are dealing with this. That certainly seems like a sticky situation and an awful situation to be in.

Try not to let it get to you ( I know, easier said than done) but focus on the exciting parts, of planning your big day with your FS and your marriage

Is there anything that you think could alleviate some tension with your FMIL? Was your relationship closer prior to all of this wedding planning?

View Quoted Comment My FMIL is the same. She is a nightmare. She gets more worked up than I do about the smallest details. She’s mad our invitations don’t include our parents but we are paying for it mostly on our own. She gave us $1,000.00 towards our $25,000.00 wedding. In my opinion, that does not make you deserving of getting credit on the invitations. She became irate and is worried their family will think she didn’t help us pay for the wedding, but she really didn’t. She tells me I should respect her wishes and flat out is rude to me, they are big bullies. I’m sorry for what you’re going through, I almost wish my FMIL wouldn’t come to the shower or the wedding.

View Quoted Comment See I can’t relate because I have an awesome mother in law.

View Quoted Comment I am very happy that you have an awesome MIL, I always wished that when I got married my husbands mom and I would be very close. So it’s very disappointing that she doesn’t even treat me like a daughter or a person she respects most of the time.

Oh my God, I truly understand and feel for you. My FMIL is such a pain. She is so condescending and insulting about everything I do and pick out. They are not contributing to the wedding with the exception of the rehearsal dinner. I never asked them to pay for anything, nor would I ever, so I do not know why she is so rude to me. She has broken my excitement and spirit about planning and the wedding. It just sucks.

Sorry this turned into my own rant... Hang in there!

Maria, my fh and I have been threat Numerous Times with in the last month and A half that she was coming / not coming ! I’m sick of it. If something doesn’t go her way it’s the high way ! I though planning a wedding would be the most fun part of life. But it’s been the most chaotic Dramatic time of our lives! I’m the type of person that when is handed lemons I make lemonade. But then come. My fml and she. Pours salt in to the lemonade ( if u see what I mean ) my fml is happy in less everything is crazy and about her having to cover up lies with lies ! And so on it’s crazy !

View Quoted Comment My fh and I finally had enough and flat out told her she wasn’t welcome at our wedding because of the threats she has pulled on us this last month and a half

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry Kirstie! I feel for you. I feel like it may get to that point with us... my FMIL and FH’s grandma complained soooo much about our invitations because it doesn’t include our parents. Well his parents haven’t helped us pay for squat and my parents don’t care about that kind of stuff. His grandmother said and I quote “what a stupid invite everyone is going to laugh”. I cried and cried, I try not to let it bother me but I don’t know why they have to be so mean. What is making comments like that really doing besides hurting us? We spent a lot of time on our invitations and a lot of money so to hear things like that hurts so much. They make me feel not excited about the wedding by criticizing everything we do. I just want to marry the man I love and be happy, why can’t they feel that way and just be happy for us? I know your wedding will be amazing, I’m sorry she has made you feel this way! Sending positive vibes!!! What’s the date for the wedding?