Mothers at bachelorette party ?

Why are they upset?
to me, the bachelorette party is specifically for the people IN the bridal party that you’ve chosen. It’s a celebration of friendship in addition to it being a pre-wedding event. Mothers honestly don’t have a stated role in a traditional bachelorette.

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Casey I feel the exact same way. That's why I nor my MOH even thought about it. Glad you feel the same. Just trying to get a feel for what others have done. I have seen pictures of others' bachelorette parties (friends on fb, etc.) and some of them had their mom present. TBH, it's kind of weird to me.....

My mom wanted to be invited and kind of basically said she was coming but after we started making plans and I didn't tell her anything about them. She was kinda like I get it, its for the bridal party and friends, not the mom. She still seemed bummed. So maybe explain that

I guess My mom wanted to go to dinner since she was “dropping off my cousin anyways” but another BM volunteered to get my cousin instead so they politely changed plans so that didn’t happen

Moms have not been at any of the bachelorette weekends I have attended. We FaceTimed my mom while my Butler in the Buff was making drinks, my mom laughed and said have fun girls...

View Quoted Comment I would maybe offer to do something with your mom/FMIL in lieu of bachelorette?? Just say that it’s an event that you want to specifically celebrate with your friends and reflect on your friendship, but you’d love to go out to brunch/spa/shopping or something to celebrate with them on another day

I ended up having two bachelorette parts (rated PG, PG21) lol. Both didn't have mother or fmil

I’ve never heard of or attended a bachelorette where the mother or fmil was present.

My mom and future mother-in-law will be at mine. Although i imagine my fmil will leave early. I really just think it depends on the mothers and the relationships. I wouldn't expect most to attend though.

Both moms need to realize that it's not really suitable for them to participate in these parties. They aren't your contemporaries, they aren't your BFFs. You need to party with your friends and bridal party. Moms can go party with their friends.

When I was planning my sister's bachelorette party a few years back, my Mom wanted to go. I had to tell her she wasn't invited bc it was just for friends. She was bummed but she understood. I think she was having FOMO more than anything. My sister was the first of my siblings to get married. I'm hoping more that it's her turn to plan mine, that Mom knows the fall and my sister can skip that conversation with Mom.

My mom 2as at my bachelorette party. We had a blast. I'm glad she was there. No way would I have my MIL there.

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I was invited to my daughter's last weekend but declined. It was nice to be asked but didn't feel like clubbing was the place for me. Now if it was at a spa, I would have definitely gone, lol!!

I'm doing just something with my mom and oldest daughter. I call it my bachelorette party but it's not technically lol. That's the only "pre wedding" party we are having. We are renting a cabin in Tahoe and doing a weekend of horseback riding

Nah I mean my mom is my best friend but I always thought of it as a best friends weekend. However if you want them there it’s different. If you do then go for it but if you don’t I wouldn’t feel bad at all!

Mine are coming but I told my friends that i'm not really into the traditional bachelorette party and wanted something low key and PG lol. I think we are doing dinner and drinks..

I think the bridal shower is for the mother and MIL. The bachelorette party is for the ladies. This way everyone is included and feels like they are important. I plan to set this in motion next year

I think this all depends on the relationships with the group. The last bachelorette party I attended the MOB was present. Mine is an oot trip to the hotsprings and my mom will most definitely be there. My mom parties harder than I am and I cannot imagine her not being there lol. The only other attendees will be my bridesmaids.

My mother is definitely invited because we are extremely close. However she’s only coming for a couple days because she can’t take off work. I’d rather see her for a few days than not at all.