Mothers at bachelorette party ?

I think it really depends on your relationship and what type of bachelorette lol. I love my mum but staying out till 4 am doing shots and dancing is not really her idea of a good time so I wouldn't assume she would want to come. FMIL definitely not her scene hahah I'll invite my FSIL though.

I went to one bachelorette party and her mom and several older ladies from the church were there. She had a lingerie shower and the moh had us playing slightly inapropriate games. It was insanely uncomfortable in my opinion.

My mom attended my bachelorette celebration and everyone had a great time. It wasn't a traditional event that's why we called it a celebration instead of party. My mom, one of my sister's (bm) my moh, cousin and two friends went to a concert at a casino. We all had dinner together before the concert and after the concert a few of us gambled. It was a lot of fun.

Nope, no way. I foresaw this issue so to her knowledge I didn’t have one. She never asked and I didn’t go parading it around. My horrible FMIL kept telling everyone that my shower was the bachelorette, unsure where she got that from. I’ve noticed on social media that sometimes mom’s attend even for the long weekends away, but that’s not something I would ever be interested in.

My Mom and I are very close. There's very little we don't share with each other. My bachelorette is in August in New York City and planning had begun already. My Mom talked to me about two friends and herself going up to the city the same weekend to go see some Broadway shows and be around "in case" anything happens. We had a nice conversation about it and we agreed it was ok. She's taking me and my girls out to a cute brunch on Saturday but otherwise is staying in a completely different part of town and will have a weekend full of fun things with her girlfriends. When I tell some people this, they're absolutely shocked. But considering it's not like she's attending everything and getting drunk with us-- I thought it was fine. But I totally get I have a unique situation! Hope this helps

Thanks everyone ! I think everyone is on the same page as me I am very close with my mom and with my FMIL but to me it seems weird and awkward and I foresee myself not having the fun I want to if they’re there. I just wanted some second opinions and you all reassured me. THANK YOU!

I invited both and both declined, they told me to go have fun with my girls!!

It's for sure weird they are upset because traditionally it is NOT an environment to share with your mother or FMIL. I'm doing a 2 night, 3 day weekend at a rented house in Palm Springs. It's more of a relaxed, spa weekend so I am inviting moms. My mom is still pretty young and likes to drink and go out, so she wouldn't be awkward in that situation anyway. My FMIL is not like that, and hates the idea of drinking so she is just going to stay and go to bed early when we go out to bars.

My mom is upset she isn’t invited to the bachelorette. But I just want it to be my bridal party so she’ll just have to understand.

Neither of mine are coming.. i would either just not bring it up with them, or if they are persistent just chat with them about it

Hard pass. Do you want your FMIL watching you drink out of a penis-shaped straw? This is not their place at all.

Listen my mom was the most chill open minded person around. Having said that I would not have wanted her at a bachellorette party nor would she have expected to attend.

Neither My mother nor FMIL were at mine (and for GOOD reason). But the shower was open to all ladies including them.

I told my MOH to invite my mom but my mom opted out. She's my best friend but she said it's not a place for moms and we'd do our own thing to celebrate when I get back.

They shouldn't be upset; it's for you and your girls

My mom is coming to mine since she begged for months to be invited, but she won't be involved in all of the activities. We're doing a long weekend in Vegas so she can spend the days at the pool with us and go out to nice dinners, but won't be going to the clubs.