Move up the wedding? Or push it back?

Do you think I'm wrong for wanting to hold off until we can afford what we want, rather than just doing a courthouse wedding now?

How would you handle the people who think we should move it up?

FH and I have been engaged for 13 years we found out I was prego with our middle son and pushed back the wedding Byrne time I was readytoan again ( a few years later lol ) I was prego with our youngest son. He is now going to be 8. If you push it back just make sure you stick with it don't wait like we did lol. After the baby you're so busy with baby stuff. You do what makes you guys happy.

Relationships are difficult. Add a child and they *can* become even more difficult. I know if my ex and I wouldn't have had the girls we'd still be married. Living separate lives under the same roof, but still married.

fwiw, I definitely had a lot more money pre-kids. Daycare, clothing, medical expenses (even though we have good insurance), groceries, formula (I wasn't able to nurse my first child), diapers. Kids are $$$$$

Do what will make the two of you happy.

I have stated to my FH that I would like to be married before I become pregnant. He wants to try like yesterday. My family is very old fashioned and I guess that has rubbed off on me. I don't think any different of people who aren't married and have a baby on the way, just for me personally, I would want to be married even if it meant moving up the wedding and having a smaller one.

I wish I had've pushed my wedding day up until after the baby was born b/c then I wouldn't've gotton married the 1st time. I was 18, 2nd pregnancy, I listened to my mom, rushed & got married. 5 kids & a divorce a few yrs. down the road caused me a lot of resentment towards myself because I should've listened to myself. Not that this will be your story, just saying to go with your gut feeling. If you want to wait til you can afford it or after the baby, do so, that's not going to make the baby's father not be his/her dad or cause any blessings to be missed. It's just going to satisfy, ease or please other ppl. & at the end of the day you have to live with your choice so make the choice that feels right to you. Good luck & congrats on the baby I hope it all works out in your favor.

I agree with Dina.... do what will makes you happy. At the end of the day, YOU have to live with that decision, not his parents or family.

The only way I would move it earlier is if health insurance benefits make a difference. Otherwise, then I would have it when you want.

Easy enough to say because of our new blessing, all our extra funds will be used for our new addition.

Yeah there aren't really any benefits such as insurance coverage or anything that would make a difference...in fact I think it'll work in our favor to be able to keep our taxes separate for a couple more years and things like that.

First of all---yay! baby!! congratulations!

Second of all--I say push it up--not because you should be married before you have a child yadda yadda but you really will be so busy with the baby that time will pass and you may be a long time before you get around to planning the wedding. Not to mention, babies are expensive! You will have to put your money toward stuff for the baby and probably wont be able to put aside much for the wedding. This is just me thinking out loud-i obviously dont know you or your financial standings so do what is the least stressful and the most comfortable time. All else will fall in to place.

People always have their own opinions. If pushing it back til after wedding is your gut feeling as to what to do... go with that. I have a friend in your same boat and she also pushed her wedding back.

Honestly, if you don't have the money now for the wedding you want then u probably never will with a baby coming. I say push it up bc once that baby comes it will be the last thing on your mind trying to plan a wedding. I have two kids ages 5 and 1 and am just now planning our wedding. Good luck, make whatever decision will make you the happiest

If I were u I'd push it back... No one wants to be pregnant on their wedding day lol

If it were me, I'd move it up. Not because I think there's anything wrong with having a child before you're married, but just because I feel like I'd be so preoccupied with a baby/spending a lot of money on the baby, that it would take awhile before a wedding happened. And I wouldn't want to wait, I'm ready to be married!

But if you want to push it back, that's what you should do. You and your FH just need to do what's right for you guys, at the end of the day that's what matters.

I would move it up. Please don't take this the wrong way, but these are my concrete opinions. Back when you posted about your pregnancy you mentioned going on Medicaid? If you need government insurance to support your baby and financial times are this much of a strain, then odds are that wedding of your dreams is out of reach. Not to mention, your life is about to become about baby, not a glamorous wedding.

With that being said, throw yourself a wedding you will enjoy and remember so that when your baby arrives you can move forward with your life - financially as well.

I would push it up. It gets harder to save once baby comes.

You could push it up, have a civil ceremony or just something small with your family and then do a bigger shindig later in the future. Some people fear being able to save, but if you do with via a CD account where you can't access the money, you could save up for that dream wedding in a few years.

I'm hoping we will be able to save, because we are going to be moving in with my mom for about a year...to get some of our debts paid and then to save for the wedding also. This is going to save us at least a thousand dollars a month, so I'm hoping we can put that to good use.

If we were to move up the wedding, it would literally be a courthouse wedding with just us and no one else. I don't want to get married in front of people unless it's a wedding I could be proud of...I had made another post about this awhile back, but I actually still really wish FH and I had got married when we were in Vegas...unfortunately that didn't happen though. I think that would have been perfect.

I would push it back if you wanted a full wedding. Especially because it will be easier to find a wedding dress went you aren't pregnant.

I would push it back... We got engaged when I was 8 months pregnant after 7 years together, we got married when our daughter was 20 months old, take the time to save. We are certainly not a tradiotional couple as we planned to have a baby before marriage because it was a higher priority to usthen being married was