Moving Across the Country

Thats a tough one. on the one hand you want to live your life the way you want and on the other you dont want to tKe your son away from your family. it will come down to whats most important to you

You have a difficult decision but take your father's words wisely. You never know, maybe your parents / FILs will also move closer to be near the two of you. Don't be afraid to take a chance on an exciting new adventure. Life is short and embrace every bit of it while you can. Sounds like you already have your father's blessing - run with it.

I definitely get the conflicted feelings. It’s hard. I’ve thought before about moving away from my parents many times. I’ve even tried living 3 hours away and it didn’t last (job situation was rough and not at all as I expected, but it’s part of the story that led to finding my FH, so it was worth it). The spending time together is an important factor, but also thinking about the help and assistance family offer. One of my closest friends and her husband live a days drive from any family and while they love living here it’s harder on somethings like having someone to just watch the kids for an hour or so.
Now I also have friends that have moved far from family and have done a great job at building and finding community in their new town, to have a friend that can run by the store for you for a crucially needed item for a sick child when the hubby is off on business or stuck in some urgent work meeting, or pick your child up from daycare because something urgent came up where you’re at. Community doesn’t have to be blood relatives (though they’re helpful and naturally built in).

My parents moved very far away from family/friends. It was hard but they knew it was the best decision for them. It was difficult not having any family to rely on but that's what brought them so much closer together and they definitely made the right choice. I think if deep down you know its the right decision for your family then do it.

It’s a tough call. But remember...you can always come back home. My FH’s sister just kind of went through all of this, she moved out to Wisconsin (we live in Connecticut) in 2014 I believe and she lived out there until last year, when she decided she wanted to be closer to her family. Alaska is BEAUTIFUL but are you guys cold weather people? It gets really cold there (it’s my dream to live there too, but probably won’t ever happen).

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the advice! We are cold weather people and LOVE being outdoors.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for this reminder about community!

View Quoted Comment Exactly! I think this is why I keep going back and forth. I

View Quoted Comment Same!!! I’ve been to both Alaska and Seattle and would move to either in a heartbeat if my FH was willing. He just doesn’t want to leave his family behind.

I have moved many many times in my life. I moved from Europe to the US with my parents when I was 13. My extended family is still in Europe and it’s hard to be so far away from them and only see them once every few years.
In the last 10 years I’ve lived in 5 different states, most of those states were on the East Coast when my parents lived on the West Coast. It was really hard because I’m close to my parents but we talked alllll the time, texted every day and saw each other every few months. Plane flights are so easy to catch to visit your family. And they can come visit you and see a new area of the country.
It’s always such a new adventure to move somewhere!! I highly recommend it, and like someone said you can always move back!It sounds like you’ve really wanted this for a while and if you don’t do it you might regret it later on! Also I know you’ve visited the area but make sure you research and enjoy the climate! Good luck on your decision