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Moving Cities & Changing Jobs due to Engagement or Marriage

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akshali2000, on April 13, 2017 at 3:39 PM

I recently came across this thread from last year (https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/moving-in-together-after-wedding/039b884b013ce61c.html?page=2) and it made me think of a similar topic. Has anyone on here (particularly long distance couples) gone through the process of moving cities...

I recently came across this thread from last year (https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/moving-in-together-after-wedding/039b884b013ce61c.html?page=2) and it made me think of a similar topic.

Has anyone on here (particularly long distance couples) gone through the process of moving cities after marriage or after engagement? If you work in a professional or niche field, was it hard to find a job? Does it look bad on your resume if moving for marriage will mean short stints of jobs (like 1 year each)?

We are currently long distance (different states in the US, 4-6 hours apart). I will be moving to FI's city after our wedding, which is a much smaller city than where I live now with fewer job openings for my field and lower pay. I'm really nervous about job hunting. I'd ideally want to have an offer letter before I move, but I'm not sure if this will be possible.

Anyone gone through this before?

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xjoyceee · on April 13, 2017 at 7:37 PM
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I'm facing the same thing right now, except in my field, it'll be easy to find a job anywhere. But it's definitely been stressful to plan a wedding, buy a house, and look for a new job at the same time. Do you know yet what kind of job opportunities you would have in the area?
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akshali2000 · on April 13, 2017 at 7:42 PM
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@Amber - Ooh, good tip about the moving expenses being tax-deductible! Although, I'm not sure what that has to do with having an offer letter...no employer I've ever had has offered me relocation benefits (it's just not common in my field unfortunately).

@xjoyceee - Wow, that's a lot to do in one year! It's good that your job search won't be too stressful then, because it sounds like your hands will be full with other things haha. I know the range of job opportunities I will have because I've lived and worked there before, but the whole reason I moved out was because opportunities (and pay) were limited and I had really high ambitions. It was a difficult conversation to have with him, but for now this is the conclusion we reached for the first phase of our marriage at least. Hopefully down the line maybe he will move for me someday when we are more mid-career level. #compromise lol
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