Moving Date from Aug 2021 to 2022

I think your reasons to postpone make sense! Especially since a lot of your guests are traveling internationally. I also agree that you're smart to be a little ahead of the curve and postpone earlier rather than later.


My fiance and I postponed our July 2020 wedding to July 2022 for a variety of reasons, and we do not plan to postpone beyond 2022. Our venue had extremely limited availability for 2021, and we weren't sure what 2021 would even look like, so we just decided that 2022 was a safer bet. We've been together 6 years at this point, another 2 won't make a big difference for us lol.

We're scheduled for May 2021 and I'm debating whether or not to start moving things out.

Can I ask what your process was? Did you talk to the venue first to see what days they were available and then go to all your vendors and have to coordinate them? I'm dreading all that work.

We postponed from November 2020 to November 2021. We got incredibly lucky in that all of our vendors rescheduled and none of them charged us fees (aside from the baker doing our cake). We were already going to have a 2 year engagement, so at this point our new wedding date will be 3 years. That is definitely my limit LOL If we have to modify our wedding next fall, so be it; there is no way I am postponing again! But, with the promise of a vaccine on the horizon, I expect things to be much better a year from now. I’m sure once the vaccine is readily available, restrictions will be lifted. And with the horrible mismanagement of this virus, I don’t know that we will ever eradicate it. It may be like the flu- something that is just always around from now on.

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We keep joking that we should have gotten married no later than year 3!

Oh well. Right?!

Good job on the early call for July 2022. We booked our venue in Jan 2020 for Aug 2021 and they only had weekdays left! I can't imagine trying to book something for 2021 at this point. I worried that in January 2021 our venue would only have 2023 dates available and a 3+ year engagement is a little long for me LOL.

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Yup, I went to our venue then planner first since they are the most important in my opinion. Venue especially so you have a firm date to tell your other vendors what date you want to make to.

Our planner is working with our flowers and cake vendor.

Then I worked down the list based on $ amount, but reached out to everyone on the same day so it did not really matter the order.

I was honest about our situation and said we'd like to move to XX day in 2022 and everyone has been really understanding.

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I love November (Scorpio girl here!)

That's great you did not have a any fees! I was bracing for the worst, but almost everyone has allowed us to rebook for free, the only difference is now there is another payment installment leading up to the wedding, and I was ok with that. I understand the vendors need cash flow.

I'm hopeful late 2021 will be very different. The choice to move dates is so personal. If our guests were more local, we may not have postponed.

I think its wise to draw a line in the sand of "this is it, what will be, will be" lol.

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Also wanted to add, I too was dreading the work.

But really, once I had a new date with the venue it only really took a day to reach out to everyone else. Almost everyone got back to me instantly with a new contract to sign. It was not nearly as bad as I thought.

Have you sent save the dates yet and need to notify guests?

View Quoted Comment Scorpio girl here, too! 🖤 We are actually having a destination wedding (within the U.S.) so all of our guests, including ourselves, will be traveling for our wedding. We are just crossing our fingers and hoping for the best! Worst case scenario, FH & I will drive down there and have an entire wedding cake, feast, photographer and videographer just for the two of us! 😂

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That would be awesome, I'm excited for you!

I think this year is just teaching me to roll with the punches and look for the silver lining.

Our wedding was on July 2021 but postponed to July 2022. Although most family and friends live near us we do have family and friends traveling from the DR, Spain, Italy and Switzerland and other states in the US. We had a lot of things booked already so made things easier for us. Just like you I’m excited because we get to add more and we also get to buy a home before getting married.



I am honestly happy (sometimes sad lol) that we made the choice of moving our wedding. But it just gives us room to do more! It also allows people to bounce back financially!

Wow! Yes to everything you mentioned—our reasons are very similar! My fiancé and I also booked our venue and major vendors before the pandemic unraveled in early Feb for our August 21, 2021 wedding. At the beginning, I would’ve never imagined we would have to postpone (heck, I remember everyone in the forums telling summer and fall 2020 couples not to postpone) but my fiancé and I just made that decision a couple of weeks ago. I spent so much time reading threads and polls and most people suggested to wait until January 2021 to make the decision and the more I thought about it, the more it made sense to postpone now:


-We want our shot at a pre-Covid style wedding (no masks, no fear, dancing, hugging, and large guest list) and don’t want to compromise on that. I think many are being naive about what 2021 will look like or might not really care about protecting others—we do!
-We don’t care much about restrictions but more so about the threat of the virus—even if there aren’t any “restrictions” next summer, we wouldn’t want to take the risk or have a wedding in that climate.
-We don’t want to miss out on the wedding experience/journey—we’ve already canceled the engagement party, catering tasting, dress shopping, etc. because of the pandemic. We don’t think we will be able to enjoy the experience this year—instead of sharing happy moments with family, we are socially distanced from family and just anxious. We also worry about giving up the bachelorette/bachelor trips, bridal shower, and international honeymoon.
-Like you, we’ve been together for a veryyy long time and have lived together for over 5 years and don’t plan on having kids for a while so though it’s so hard to wait longer because I was looking forward to all of the excitement, we can definitely wait an additional year.
-Since we know we wouldn’t want to elope, reduce guest list, wear masks, etc., we also think it’s best to get ahead of the curve on a 2022 date! Couples that would’ve been 2021 couples are being forced to book 2022 and more couples will get engaged in the next few months. It will be a bigger headache to postpone and try to move vendors next year.
Unfortunately, we have yet to hear back from our venue about this. We reached out over 2 weeks ago and haven’t heard back so I’ve been anxious. But I am hopeful that they will be understanding and then we will reach out to all of the vendors that same day with our new date options. Fingers crossed! Similarly, we would also throw in the towel in 2022–which is why I totally understand why 2020 couples would be hopeful and fixated with 2021.
Best wishes!!

In the exact same boat! Together 9 years - what's the rush for us?! We don't want kids anytime soon and well, we're just not in a rush. So, that being said, we just rescheduled our June 2021 wedding to May 2022 and feel RELIEVED. I'd rather see how this vaccine progresses this year and enjoy the planning process; it has been way too stressful trying to plan with Covid looming still. Best of luck!