Moving in before wedding

We moved in after 7 months of dating, and it was the best decision we've ever made. Living together has its challenges initially, and I'm glad we worked out all the kinks before we even thought about getting engaged. We built/bought a house last year, and when we get married in August, we'll have lived together for almost 3 years. Move in now!

SoontobeaRyan, if everyones' opinion were removed from this situation what would you and your future husband do? Stand together and do it.

IMO it sounds like his parent's approval of moving in together prior to the wedding is the biggest issue.

Move in when you can afford it. You're adults (I hope?) so no matter what his parents want this is your life together.

FH and I move into our new home next week and get married in October. I'll be grateful to not have to worry about moving after (or not having him close by for support).

We started dating November 2012, when we were both temporarily living at home. We moved in together when I got a job in another city in April 2013. We bought our house together in April 2015. Our wedding is September 2016. So we definitely aren't moving in close to the wedding. But we've been living together for 3 years now, and I think it's alright. But we're also in our late 20s, so even if our parents protested it wouldn't matter.

Our situation doesn't make it possible for us to move in together. My sister moved in with her husband 2 years before she was married though.

DH and I lived together about 3 months then he proposed. I wouldn't change that for anything. Wedding time is stressful enough, moving too? I'll pass lol.

In my personal opinion, I wouldnt marry someone I have not lived with. Mind you I am not religious or anything and I tepee the those that are.

FH and I lived at his parents house for two years before purchasing a home last September. We wanted to save up, and Be together so we chose to live at his house instead of separate homes. We had both been previously living in separate apartments but couldn't justify the cost to start a new lease when we knew each other was it, and we wanted a home.

It was an incredibly difficult living situation but I know believe we can get through anything! Ha!

Fh and I were together for a year when we moved in together, and we've been living together for almost 7 years. We were living separately with our families, and then I accepted a job 2 hours away and he came with me. My parents are old fashioned, and less than thrilled when we moved in together. Even now I get comments about how we're living in sin... But we did what was right for us. I can't imagine doing it any other way.

You and fh need to do what is right for you two, not anyone else. You might hear some comments, but who cares as long as you're happy?

FH and I have lived together over a year now. We weren't intending to move in together. It just sort of worked out that way. I had to move, so I asked him to help me look at places since he'd be spending a lot of time there. He lived with his parents and didn't have a job, so I didn't want to put any financial burden on him. However, I figured he'd practically live with me since my place would be private. As we were looking, he just flat out asked why we weren't just moving in together. When I explained the financial aspects, he stepped up and said he'd get a job and contribute, so we went for it. I was actually very pleasantly surprised to find that there was no real adjustment period or surprises. We had one argument about how the toilet paper would go. We ended up agreeing that whoever changed it would put it their way. After a month, he started putting it my way just because he loves me and knew how much it bugged me.

I still don't understand how people can get married without living together first because you simply don't know someone well enough until you've lived with them. It's totally different to dating

Moving is stressful period. Especially if neither of you have lived on your own before. I can see why moving in together before would be harder financially and add stress but I think that it would suck having to hurry up and move right after the wedding. And I agree the parents thing is a red flag, they do know he's getting married right? Why does it matter if he moves now or after? Maybe a good compromise would be to get the apartment, get it all set up and one of you can just wait to move your cloths and toothbrush in until after the wedding. Bottom line is you guys should do whatever you think is going to be best for your emotional and financial well being.

What about getting the apartment and only one of you sleeping there until the wedding.... it sounds kinda weird but it's the only thing I can think of lol

I've lived with FH for over 2 years. I'm so glad I did because I get to know all his weird habits and accept all of the things he does that drive me nuts. I swear you don't really know a person until you live with them, the first year is definitely as adjustment period.

Why do his parents get a say?

FH and I have lived together for almost a year now. My parents weren't too keen on the idea at first because they are really old school but now they are supportive of our decision. It just takes time. Hopefully FH will consider your thoughts and decide to move in!

My husband and I have been living together since January 2015 after we purchased our second home. His parents weren't very pleased with it, because he had a son and didn't want him to be influenced at all, but he had been living with them for a few years after giving up his apartment, so he was ready to be on his own! Since we did some upgrading to the house, I was so glad to have that done before full time wedding planning came into effect!

Been with my fiancé for 3 years and he moved in 2 years ago. I already had my place established so it cost me less wth him moving in. You definitely learn a lot about someone especially if this is their first time living on their own. They don't have mom to help with everything.

My FH and I are old fashioned I guess... after we got our bachelors degrees we moved back home and have been working FT as well as working on our second degrees.

We chose not to live together for many reasons; saving money, waiting until marriage to be intimate, setting an example for younger cousins/siblings...

I think it's incredibly romantic that your FH wants to wait until after you two are married. It's only 2 months to wait and wouldn't it make signing the apartment much more exciting if you both were ready for that commitment? I'm sure that whatever you two decide will be best for the both of you!

My FH moved to oregon from California last year for me. We'd talked about getting married for a year, decided on a date in December, and we'll get married this winter. It's taken 10 years lol

I've lived with my fiancé since like 4 months after we met..

But could you move yourself into the apartment first and your FH can join you when he's ready? It's a little odd that he needs his parents approval of this though...