Moving in together AFTER wedding!

I was in a similar situation but our plans have changed. We were going to find a place then FH moves in first then I move in after. Just keep the items you get in the place you have now and then move them in when your FH moves.

I really wish my fiancé and I waited until after the wedding to move in. But after 5 years of being together I was tired of living apart.

We could've saved so, so, so, so much money by living at home.

We moved in together 4 months after getting engaged (about 6 months ago). I don't regret the decision. But now we basically have everything we need for a home, so our registry is pretty bare.

I respect your decision, it's a smart move financially, aside from your personal values

We did this. We got our apartment keys on June 11 and got married July 10. The best thing for us was to get all the furniture and everything else we possibly could move, moved before the wedding. Then after the honeymoon, we were able to go home together and it wasn't annoying to have to move all our stuff.

I'm doing the same thing with my FH. It's just our preference to not live together until we're married. We're also saving a ton of money by living at home, which is helping us pay for the wedding. I don't think this necessarily has to take away from the fun of the shower. Think of it this way: Sometimes people get gifts that don't work in certain spaces. This means that you can register for the stuff you really want and then find an apartment you like that works with it. Also, there's no reason you can't look around now at apartments. It's actually awesome that you can take your time with the apartment search because then you'll be able to explore all of your options and find the best option in your budget.

Look now so you have have your name on

The list for the date you want to move! Open the gifts at the shower but Save presents to open from the box together in your new home.

Thank you for all the wonderful encouragement ladies! It really is scary going in "blind" to a living situation, but it also presents a lot of opportunity to save money and have a fresh start in a new place with my FH

Nicole, I think we will do the same! Move everything into our place so that its all ready to go when we get married. We are going to agree that my FH will do his best to NOT use any of our brand new things until I arrive in the home so we can enjoy it for the first time together

MrsInSeptember, that is a wonderful idea! Thanks for sharing! That will be something to look forward to

Don't stress my fiancé and I are also waiting to move in together after the wedding in order to save money. We are trying to buy a house a couple months before the wedding, he will be living there and after the wedding I will be joining him in our new home

You're still a step ahead of me!! FH and I live in a tiny apartment and won't have anywhere to put gifts. Like, they will literally just be stacked in a corner. Long term plan post wedding is to buy a house.

We are waiting to live together, due to our personal values as well. It has had its challenges, and certainly wasn't the most financially beneficial decision, but it was really important to us. My two children and I will be moving into FH's home (literally 1000 sq ft finished in the BARN) while our house is being built. I also have no vision of our future home, so I registered for lots of taupe! Goes with everything! Good luck, don't get discouraged, be proud!

We are in a very similar situation. Due to our personal beliefs we will not be living together until we are married as well. But he is currently trying to get a job closer to his family (2 applications to PA.. we live in NY). They're much more stable and better paying than his current job. But the waiting process is definitely difficult since we're only a month and a half away from the wedding. We do have a back up plan but it definitely doesn't seem very "stable".

We don't live together yet for a similar reason. I'm actually starting to move my stuff into our future apartment this weekend. 9 more days!

We're did the same but you'll be good! Most apartments (if that's your goal) will have one of two or three floor plans and one of two or three color schemes! Just make sure your stuff matches itself (I hope that made sense) and goes with your style and you'll be good! One or two pieces might not fit (for example you may want to mount your tv and therefore didn't need a stand) but for the most part you'll be pretty standard no matter where you live unless you move into a treehouse or something.

Now I want to live in a treehouse.

We didn't live together until we were married either, though we closed on a house a few months before the wedding. He kept his apartment until the wedding and I moved into the house. Moving wasn't too bad - he started moving over things like books and off-season clothes in the weeks leading up to it, then moved the rest of his stuff in about a week before.

As far as house items and decorating go, most apartments are fairly neutral. I agree with Mal-Pal, just make your stuff matches itself. Or focus on items like pots and pans, appliances, dishes, etc. that really don't change much according to where you're living.

FH and I won't be living together until after the wedding because of him being on base. I can't wait to move in with him!

My family is religious and a lot of our friends have done that. Typically they find a place a few months before and get it ready to move in and the girl moves in after the honeymoon

FH and I will be doing this. We both work about 5 minutes from our respective homes, but we live around an hour away from each other. Neither of us want a long commute lol. I'm trying to change school districts to be closer to him this summer though.

Just a thought- why don't you move into the place, instead of him? That way it won't feel so bachelor pad or like "his" place when you move in

My FH and I each live with our parents. We bought a house back in December (currently being remodeled) and we're definitely not going to live together until after the wedding. He might move in some time in May, once most of the house is done. I have begun to move some of my things though, like winter clothing, and things I don't really need at my parents.

I'm doing this! We've moved our things in and my fiancé is already living there but I'm still at my parents house for now. It's hard but I'm really doing it for my parents...to make them happy. To be honest part of the excitement for me has been more on the fact that I get to move in with him when we get married. Having a shower before we closed on our house was definitely difficult though! It's hard to get that visual that you need.