Moving in together after wedding

I have more experience than my FH in living on my own and living with roommates. The good news is that we both know how to cook, clean, do laundry, care for pets and cars and pay bills. FH and I will either move in together shortly before the wedding, or after, we aren't sure yet.

When I first started on my own, Betty Crocker was my best friend for trying out new recipes and learning to make more than grilled cheese, soup and pasta. The other thing I realized was that growing up I was TOLD to clean, but was never really taught HOW to. Fly Lady was a god send of a website to stumble across! It really broke down how to clean various parts of your home and build a routine that also takes care of yourself.

As previous posters have mentioned, COMMUNICATION is a fundamental part of your relationship with your future spouse. This is what my FH and I read within the past week because of a major meltdown/ fight that we had. That article made me see that I was doing OK with a few of the rules and there are others that I have to work much harder on. FH now has a better understanding that there are even rules to fighting and was able to reflect and identify all the ways that he didn't follow the rules during that fight. We read the article together and discussed together our interpretations regarding certain rules to make sure we are on the same page.

Budgeting and financials are two areas that you and your spouse will have to discuss and be in agreement on. A previous poster mentioned David Ramsey. I agree with the suggestion. He's very straight forward and if you work the budgeting system, it can and will work for you.

I think one of the more difficult things that FH and I will have to work on/ compromise about is various aspects of our personal routines. For instance, He's an early riser that's ready to start his day 15 minutes after waking up. Me, I take an hour after waking up just to wake up and have my coffee before I'm ready to start my day. He showers at night and I'm a morning shower person.

Sorry this is so long, but I hope it helps!

So many resources these days for you to use: consider Dave Ramsey, or You Need a Budget for managing money. Consider registering for an Instant Pot and learning to use that to make healthy, economical, home-cooked meals.

When setting up a household, even in perhaps a small apartment, it will help to have areas/systems for the following: 1. Destination Station: where you keep keys, purse, and can put other items that you'll need to take with you as you leave. 2. Donation Station: could be as simple as a box where you can toss items you are continually donating, to keep clutter down. 3. Home Office: could be as simple as where you keep pens, paper, and the scissors. Designating one room or area for all paper is helpful.

Also take time to set up some calendar system that works for both of you. I use Google Calendar.

Consider registering for some items to help you organize, such as drawer dividers, canisters for pantry, totes, a file box, etc...

Keep a sense of humor about the mistakes you and fh will make. They will happen, but your attitude is important. Best wishes!

Hi I was 23 when I got married I took care of my siblings growing up so I knew how to cook but my parents helped me pay for college and my car etc. So when I got married and moved in with my husband I finally figured out what everyone meant when they said it would be different to live together. Best advice just be open and ready to do whatever it takes to make YOUR marriage work. Everyone is different with completely different challenges but one thing is the same... It all takes work. So be ready to fight and disagree. Everything will work out with merciful tender hardworking hearts toward one another.

I would strongly recommend practicing some independent living skills - budgeting, cooking, chores, etc prior to actually being forced to do them. Talk to your parents about having you pay rent, do household tasks, being responsible for hosting a meal, etc.