Moving in

I think this is all just preference. My now husband and I lived together for 5 years before we got married! I have friends who didn't live together until after their wedding though. I personally think it's beneficial to live together prior to getting married. You don't know a person truly until you live with them. Little quirks and habits can drive you crazy! With that being said, I wouldn't recommend even considering moving in with someone unless you knew it was going to work out. Just do what feels right for you!

I think that is totally up to you. We got engaged four months after moving in together. I’m Christian and really struggled with moving in before we were engaged or married but I made the compromise and it worked in my favor. I don’t think timing has much to do with anything at all. Instead, it’s really about your willingness to learn one another and staying committed to making your relationship work despite the problems that arise with living together.

We moved in together after 7 months together, and after a year we bought a house together and got engaged at 1 year and 9months together. ☺️

My fiancé and I have pretty much been living together since our first date and that’s been for a year and a half. I think it’s important to live with your partner beforehand!

That’s a personal decision. We can’t really answer what’s “too long” for your comfort. When FH and I moved in together, we weren’t even engaged. Six months later he proposed, and by the time we get married we will have lived together for a total of 2 years and 3 months.

We moved in together before engagement. 4 and a half years of living together already

I never imagined being married before moving in together. By the big day, we will have lived together for about 3 years. We know each other so well, there will be no surprises when we get married.

We lived together about 2 years before we got engaged in Nov 2018 and we're not getting married til Sept 2020. 🤷 But we've also been together 7 years now so we knew we weren't gonna have any problems.

I will have lived with my fiance for 3 years before we get married. I think its just a matter of personal opinion. I'm glad we have had this time to grow together and get to know each other.

I lived with my FH for just over 2 years when he proposed. I think it is up to the couple- there is no right or wrong for this.

My husband and I lived together for two years before getting married. We actually moved in together a year before we got engaged. He always says it’s the best decision and he’d recommend people do it to understand a person on a deeper level before taking the next step and I agree. it helped us get to know each other better. We also didn’t have the stress of moving in together And finding a new home. Last name change is enough rn. Lol

My fiancé and I have been living together officially for over two years. I joked that I asked him to stay to watch my cat one weekend and he never really left!

My Fh and I have lived together for four years. It works well because you know what each other’s habits are. You get to know each other better. You learn to share responsibilities of bills and maintenance of the house together. I feel like living together before you are married is very beneficial to your relationship.

We have lived together basically from the time we first began dating.. So nothing will change for us just now we'll be married.

It’s not too long as long as you are okay with a long engagement

We just got engaged in September and we've been living together for a few years. We're also planning on a 2021 wedding. I suppose it's not traditional, but I think living together gives you a head start to a strong marriage.

No!! We have been together 7.5 years and lived together for the last 6ish years (idk it's been a LONG time lol)

Coming from someone that has lived with their fiancé for 13 years, I say if it is at all possible to wait, then WAIT. While I completely understand the financial benefits and the whole I want to “REALLY” get to know them concept, that some ppl say. I just look at things differently now. The commitment of marriage is the same vow if you don't know them on that level, as if you’ve known them on that level for 50 years. It’s work regardless. Now, I think it’s completely ridiculous to say you don’t really know someone until you live with them. If you don’t really “know” someone then you should not have accepted to spend the rest of your life with them. You might not know their nightly routines or if they leave their socks on the floor, but if you are willing to commit to spending the rest of your life with them then you should already KNOW them. You should have already had many conversations about finances, future plans, etc, etc. You should already KNOW that you are both willing to put in the work that it takes to adjust, know that you both will be flexible to take the others feelings/needs into consideration, know that the other is willing to work through any and ALL of that. It WILL be a huge adjustment when you do move in together, but marriage doesn’t work because of how well you know what that other person does. It works because the people in the marriage have a commitment to make it work. I wish my partner and myself would have waited it would have made doing all those things so much more special if we were married before we did them all. Also, while it’s a wonderful and beautiful thing sharing a household with someone, it such a short time that we get to have that time of “our own” personal space. Soak it in and enjoy it :-)
Hope this helps you in some way & CONGRATS on your engagement! ❤️

I would have never accepted the proposal if I had not lived with my boyfriend (now fiance). We have lived together 2 years before he prosed a month ago. Honestly you just don't know someone until you move in with them.

We moved in together a couple months ago which is something I thought I would never do prior to being married. I'm so glad my perspective changed, its important to learn each other up close and in each other's personal space. At 41 and this being my second marriage there are certain I won't deal with. It's been an adjustment but I'm thankful for our bond being tested and us continuing to grow and evolve.