Moving my wedding date for the 3rd time

View Quoted Comment Jane, I am there. I have some people saying don't worry you'll get married....someday. Or my future brother in law, who sends articles about super spreader events. I want to scream, im not trying to kill anyone just have a simple wedding.
They have no idea what its like moving a wedding 3 times its torture.

View Quoted Comment IT IS TORTURE. I think it’s just impossible for people to understand unless they’re in the same situation, and I’m finding that a lot of people are not able to have empathy about it right now because the world is a mess. I’ve gotten a lot of “the wedding is just a party, it’s about the marriage!” And of course that’s from people who already had a chance to have the wedding of their dreams. Then I feel like a spoiled jerk for wanting a wedding. Obviously I know it’s about the marriage, but I just want to have all my family and friends together to celebrate. Weddings are an important life milestone. My wedding is just going to be a small, low-budget thing, I’m not trying to be a princess.
People also feel like “how dare you be upset about your stupid wedding, a PARTY, when people are dying!”
I am upset about people dying, of course. I’m upset about a LOT of things. We’re allowed to be upset about more than one thing at a time. I know that my situation could be worse and I’m really grateful for what I have, but I’m still sad.

View Quoted Comment Honestly finding an outdoor venue is nearly impossible, since that's really the only way to have a wedding. They are booked for months. Our wedding venue does not have an outdoor option unfortunately.

View Quoted Comment I don't know where you get your information.


We've been vaccinating for well over a week.
My city was celebrating the vaccines in our hospital last week.
I would check the state website.

I feel your struggle. My wedding is April 3rd as well and I am still trying to plan it as normal and go full steam ahead, however I'm having a total freak-out moment today. My venue is in Los Angeles County and their governor has been really strict and it makes me nervous. My venue is very good about if I want to move it they will work with me, but I want to keep my date. The venue still thinks April will be fine, but I don’t know.

I haven’t had to change the date at all. We will be engaged for 2 years by then and I don't want to wait. I have thought about doing a private ceremony then pick a new date for the reception but doesn’t seem as special. I am glad to hear some people are still positive about April, makes me feel not as stressed but still worried.

View Quoted Comment We are doing the same thing. Having a minimony this weekend with less than 15 people. Then, in April a larger wedding with friends & family. How are you doing it?? Wearing the same dress? Doing everything you planned for March or changing things up? Same colors? Did it end up costing a ton?? I’m struggling with keeping things small, low cost but still doing something nice & elegant.

View Quoted Comment I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks the larger wedding celebration won’t be as special if you’re already married. We had to do it that way because of new restrictions so I had to let that go but I sometimes feel that. But my friend told me this “The only thing better than one party, is having two”. So I’m trying to focus on the upside.

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Haha thats a great way to look at it! Hopefully we won't have to do it that way but if we do at least I will try to see the upside of celebrating twice Thank you

My SIL is getting married in April (in IL) and is still planning everything as normal, with 150+ guests.

I've heard of several couples changing their dates to a Friday or Sunday to keep all their vendors (my original date and each time we've changed has always been on a Sunday, and we've been able to keep all vendors with no charge). So that's something to think about if you are concerned with keeping your vendors.

If you can, wait until the last possible minute to change your date. April is still far off, and with the vaccine, I am very hopeful things will start returning to normal in the next few months.

Like my mom told me when I postponed for the first time, you have to decide for yourself if it's more important to keep that date, or have the people you want. Every situation is different, and that's what truly makes this so difficult. Just remember, whatever you do choose, will be the right choice for you and your fiancée.

View Quoted Comment We got legally married in September with 10 people. We just want to get the wedding over with.

I am so sorry you've had to move the date so many times. we just made our decision yesterday to move a second time, so I am here with you We are waiting to hear from vendors and figure out the costs, but it definitely is depressing, upsetting, and sad. We'll all get through this somehow...

View Quoted Comment Sorry to hear Molly, I'd love to say it gets easier each time but it doesn't. I can relate to the depression and the sadness for sure.

View Quoted Comment I didn't wear my big dress for our minimony, I ordered a dress from Amazon. I'm saving the big dress for the big wedding. We switched everything up completely (the colors, the food, the decorations etc). It didn't cost a bunch at all. My husband and I joke that our minimony was an Amazon wedding lol because that's where majority of the stuff came from but it was cute. Here's a few pics of things from Amazon.

I feel your pain! We just moved our date for the 3rd time. Come hell or high water, we are getting married on 11/13/21 (moved from 11/7/20 to 3/13/21). I'm in CA and our bully of a governor is extending our 2nd lock down, so restaurants and businesses aren't giving any guidance for 2021 yet. Luckily our reception venue has a refundable deposit and a girlfriend of mine said we can use her backyard. We'd need to scale down the guestlist, but that's not a problem for us. It's still stressful as I already bought the invites for March. So, those just became a waste of money. Still trying to see how I can use the invites and RSVPs.

Hope things get easier for you! XO

View Quoted Comment If someone tells me to " just get married" one more time, I'm going to start screaming and NOT stop. 😂 I'm also sick of people blaming us for our many postponements.

View Quoted Comment Hi date twin!!! You're the 1st person who I've seen has my same date, April 9, 2021. Yes, lots of prayers for us all!

View Quoted Comment Oh that’s perfect. I actually bought the same
Plates. Ha!! Lots of Amazon prime shopping for sure and I’m doing the very same thing. Wearing an Amazon dress, using a local inexpensive caterer and keeping it very simple. I had 2 weeks to pull this together. And I love your Thank You message. I might borrow that idea. 😊

View Quoted Comment Yes. Let’s pray we get to keep that date.

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness!! You too?? The way people think it’s so easy to “just get married” after you’ve spend months planning a completely different wedding is astounding. I know their hearts are in the right place but geez....

Hey girl - we just rescheduled ours a second time from 4/3/21, too!! Our first date was 11/14/20 and we moved it in July.. I felt so good about it then after feeling terrible and anxious for months. We are in Los Angeles and have a tyrant of a governor in CA so with the way things are now, we couldn’t see it being normal by April. We feel so good about moving it, to 9/12/21 now. It’s on a Sunday and I got lucky with all my vendors being accommodating with the change. Don’t feel bad about changing it - people get it!!! And honestly, will probably be glad you are. No one will have to worry about masks and viruses by summer or fall.. you want that type of wedding, not a covid super spreader. Hopefully, You only get 1 wedding in your lifetime and you want this to be exactly what you want!! Move the date and don’t think about it.. you’ll be happier you did. Xo