Moving my wedding date for the 3rd time

View Quoted Comment I would of said, “tough s—-t, you plan a wedding in a pandemic and get back to me!” The nerve...

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View Quoted Comment So true! They mean well, but it's exhausting. I hear it constantly. 😂 They think if we love each other we should just go to the courthouse, sell my gown, and be done with it. Thats not what we want.

I hate reading all of these it breaks my heart I feel for all of you! Our wedding was supposed to be August 22 2020 and we postponed to June 18th 2021 and we've decided no matter what the rules look like then we will be getting married. Our original venue is in New Hampshire and we are praying it will still be able to be there the exact way we want it if not we will abide by the restrictions but are also trying make a backup plan of a backyard wedding. This causes so much stress I think more than any wedding guest realize. I'm happy for these groups and messages to know we aren't alone! I wish for all of you the wedding of your dreams.

View Quoted Comment They're from amazon I believe it was like 50cards for $12, not expensive at all. & we put everything together in less than 6 weeks so I get it. We didn't need a caterer because my parents cooked for everyone (it was 35guests).

We're planning a destination wedding for May 1st, 2021 and decided to keep that date even if it means we elope and do a virtual video wedding (and do a huge celebration when it's safe). Luckily we weren't locking down our venue/vendors until well after the pandemic had started - so I can't imaging what you're going through with your contracts from pre-covid agreements!

Would a small virutal wedding be an option with your venue/vendors? You could probably donate any extra food to a shelter in need for a tax write-off if it comes down to that?

Try to stay positive and good luck!

I love y'all...this has been awful for everyone!! We postponed only once and were lucky enough with our circumstances that we were able to hold a small wedding that we did love and enjoy. However, I know we both missed having certain people celebrate with us and it was hard to not see them on that date. Postpone as many times as you would like, you have every right to have the wedding you want and pay no attention to the comments from other people who are not in your shoes.

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry someone would even say that to you I moved my wedding reception to a Sunday in July to save money people can plan ahead and if they still need to work then they can just have self control and not drink. It’s impossible for us corona brides to make everyone happy but that’s not the point the point is to make us happy and our significant others so if people aren’t happy it’s on a Sunday then they don’t have to come. I learned a lot through my experience I got legally married this July and am having the party next July I got so much heat from everyone about their own personal needs it was so stressful all I did was cry and none of that energy was worth my time because this was about me and my husband and the people who hurt me will not stay in my life because when it’s someone else’s time I support them through it all but that wasn’t the case for me. So I learned to do what’s best for me moving forward and I hope you will too it’s your day and that’s it people don’t like it they don’t have to come that’s it!

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I think its different if you started planning in the pandemic, like you knew. We did not know. Dis-inviting on a mass scale is both awkward and depressing, plus we signed minimums.
We have had to contact 200 people 3 times to move the date, its exhausting on all levels.

View Quoted Comment Me too Lindsay, I got lectures and all kinds of grief. When you reschedule its awkward and depressing having to call everyone with that kind of news

View Quoted Comment Kayla, like honestly my siblings are in NH and i like I think you should be okay. If my future mother in law wasn't in a nursing home in NJ, we would have had our in NH, because of the open spaces and the restrictions are easier to understand.

View Quoted Comment It really is! This time around I decided not to send save the dates out again for a 3rd time because I didn’t want to uninvited people it’s so upsetting I totally understand where your coming from and I just hope things get better by the way I’m in NY also very strict here and I’m so anxious to even reach out to my venue to find out what the restrictions will be all i want to do is wear my wedding dress since I couldn’t wear it this July you get to a point where you are just so over the heartache and want to move on.

Aww I know your feeling where is your wedding going to be

View Quoted Comment Exactly, Lindsay. We didnt send save the dates the last time either it gets expensive.


We don't even like talking about it, that's sad, we were excited to talk about it last year but now its met with pity, anger, and sadness. I stare at my wedding dress and if I'll ever wear it.

View Quoted Comment Ugh I know the feeling let’s hope this year gives us what we deserve cause we sure do deserve it just like everyone else!!

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I have heard the same things, and it is so frustrating. The lack of control that anyone has over the situation and the uncertainty are the most frustrating problems here, and you are right that no one can understand it unless you are in this situation. I hate that people say that there a lot more important things to consider right now; while I agree, you can still care about multiple things at the same time. Weddings are stressful enough during a normal time; throw in a pandemic and you are on a completely different playing field.

You only getting your wedding once, and while some people are ok with just having a celebration later, but no one should make you feel guilty for wanting your family and friends to safely share your wedding day. You are not spoiled for wanting something that most people spend months planning. Being sad and upset about things not going your way is normal and healthy.

We’ve moved our wedding three times too originally was November 16th, 2020. Then we moved to March 29th 2021. A few weeks ago we made the decision to move again to October 4th 2021. We decided to push it almost a year away for the best chance but we honestly don’t even know if things will be better by then it’s so frustrating and I 100% feel your pain. We live in Florida and the restrictions here aren’t so bad but we’re moving it because we personally don’t feel safe to have a wedding during this time IT SUCKS

I picked a late month in 2021 specifically because of COVID.. and because Texas stays hot 10 months of the year, I wanted that cooler weather (lol) - if you really, really want that spring wedding, I'd probably push it to 2022. It's gonna suck, but.. COVID is making everything extra awful. COVID has to get better the further along we go. I kinda even feel like November 2021 might still have COVID issues, but at least the vaccine would be administered to more by then, it should be a bit more safe. Hopefully. Our wedding venue is local and a good chunk of family are within driving distance, so even if it's still 'bad' around November, we'll still just go with it. If people can't make it, then it's understandable. Hopefully everything can go according to plan for you!

I'm so sorry, I know it's overwhelming. I'm in Southern California and we are shut down indefinitely again with a 3/27/21 date. Everyone has been saying to hold strong and not to change it yet. I hope it goes well with you!

We are on moving our date for the 2nd time. Our original date was December 12 then we moved it to March 6, 2020 and right now we’re looking into possibly June. We feel horrible moving it so many times but due to covid cases rising we feel it might be the best choice. I’m a bit skeptical and hope moving it a few months will mean covid spread will be better, but not truly sure. What made it a bit better knowing is we eloped and we’re just waiting to celebrate with all our family. I hope cases go down again and safety is better