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Ashley
Beginner December 2022

Moving wedding up 3 months!

Ashley, on April 13, 2022 at 6:25 PM Posted in Planning 9 14
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FH and I are currently on pace to get married March 11,2023 but after receiving news about 2 very close family members health on FH side we are strongly considering moving the wedding up to December 17, 2022. So practically 3 months! We’ve spoken with vendors and all of them are able to change the date for us at no charge but I’m still torn. For one December 17th is my parents anniversary (this year will be their 34th wedding anniversary) they are ecstatic about the possibility of sharing the date with us as I am very close to my parents but for some reason I just feel extremely anxious about moving things up because of the fact that I haven’t found my dress, we haven’t booked a caterer and just other wedding planning related jitters. I’m a teacher in Texas and I want to make sure we get married around a time when I would have a break from school so I don’t have to use up my personal days so I’m not married to March 11th date for any other reason than we would be on spring break the following week. I guess I’m just looking for advice on what other brides would do in my position. Everyone that matters is on board but I second guess EVERYTHING and I’m struggling to make a decision.

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Latest activity by Fiona, on April 17, 2022 at 2:46 AM
  • Ayanna
    Devoted November 2023
    Ayanna ·
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    Hey Ashley! I'm getting married Jan of 2023 in Texas as well. If it helps you, I don't have a caterer or a dress either. So you're not alone.


    If I was in your shoes, I would move my date up as well. I wouldn't pick the exact same date as my parents. For no other reason but wanting to have something of my own lol. It's natural to second guess. It's a HUGE decision and moves up your timeline a good amount. You got this, you have support and everything!
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  • Ashley
    Beginner December 2022
    Ashley ·
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    Ayanna,


    Thank you so much for your reply! It makes me feel better knowing I wouldn’t be too far behind right now with not having a dress or catering yet! Lol For the sake of having a better chance of having our loved ones there it might just be best to move it up.
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  • Ayanna
    Devoted November 2023
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    Absolutely! Keep me posted on what you decide 😊
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  • Ashley
    Beginner December 2022
    Ashley ·
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    I certainly will!
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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
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    Hi I do understand because had to change our orginal date as well which was in june 12th. So do to family issues and jobs financial reasons. We so are now in October 30th of this year we were not feeling wedding mood at all and tried to mourn and back stable with jobs security which we are so now back on track. I'm happy that you are still able to have your beautiful wedding keeping your fingers crossed and with prayers always works
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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
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    Hi Ashley, I think it’s definitely doable to move up. The only part of concern is that the date is a week away from the holidays which may be tough timing for guests.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
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    Can you dress shop ASAP, before making the decision? That way you can get a better idea of the timeline for dresses you love.



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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
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    6-8 months before the wedding is the general recommendation on when to buy a dress, so you're still good there! I would say to do that sooner rather than later just to be on the safe side. It sounds like everything should be able to move, so you should be in the clear for moving the date. Not sure when your winter break is, but I'd imagine it would be pretty close to your new date.

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  • G
    Just Said Yes July 2023
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    Think selflessly here - your wedding, once moved up, will require you to take PTO. Your FH has rapidly declining family members who he would like to be present for your nuptials. Work on the dress asap and come to terms that the change is necessary and will require sacrifice on your part.
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  • Bird
    Super June 2021
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    I think you will have plenty of time for getting dress and catering! I hired my caterer 3 months prior to my wedding date! If you wanted to get your dress from a boutique you might want to order sometime this month or next month. If you want to order a dress from davids bridal or BHLDN, they usually are in stock and will ship the next day! Seamstresses need some time to alter but since your wedding is in the off season, I think it should be fine!
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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
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    You definitely have time to get everything done. Personally, I would move it up so those family members can be there. I love the idea of you sharing your wedding date with your parents! My sister-in-law chose her wedding date because it was her parents and her in-laws wedding date also. It was a special little bond they all shared.
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    Devoted September 2022
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    My husband's grandpa got diagnosed with cancer in November so I planned our mini-wedding in 2 weeks! You certainly have enough time to get everything done. I question a bit how much 3 months will make a difference. If their health is really failing, there is no guarantee they will even make it to December. If they don't, you will have gone through all this switching for nothing. If they make it past March, you'll be in the same boat. It's a stressful position to be in.


    Doing our mini-wedding asap is something we will never regret. His grandpa passed 6 days later. He was able to be there to see us get married, and we still get the reception as planned for this September. My advice, truly, would be do it sooner than you think if its important for these family members to be there. Tomorrow is never promised.
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  • Ashley
    Beginner December 2022
    Ashley ·
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    Thank you to everyone who responded. We decided to move the wedding up and now that we have made the decision and arranged this with all of the vendors I feel a little more at ease. 💕
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  • Fiona
    Super May 2024
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    I'm glad you are feeling a bit better about everything and I think moving the wedding up is a great idea and will be worth it in the long run. You can always buy a sale dress off the rack or something like that if you need to but I would get the caterers worked out if you can Smiley smile I hope it goes well for you Smiley smile

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