Multiple showers question

The guest lists are slightly different and they're very different types of "showers", but I feel weird having this one before the other as I don't want ppl to think we're being gift grabby or to upstage the hard work that my cousin/aunt are doing for the bridal shower.

Do I need to do anything else? It's okay to have multiple showers right? I'm not being gift grabby am I?

I think that typically when there are two showers that it's because the guest lists are different. Like FH's side wants to throw you one for their side of the family. It sounds like in this instance the guest list is going to overlap some? I think with an overlapping guest list that 3 weeks is really soon. I also think that since your cousin and aunt agreed first that their party should be first since maybe some guests that are invited to both might think it's "gift grabby" and might only go to the first one.

It's ok to have multiple showers, but I wouldn't invite any one to both, with the exception of MOB/MOG and your bridal party. Let the people who are invited to both know that while you would love to see them at both parties, they don't have to attend both or either (that should be understood but it's still nice to say) and that gifts aren't expected at both showers if they attend both.

It's ok to have multiple showers as long as they're only asked for a present once. Is the camping shower just for recipes or also presents? If people are going to bring camping themed gifts, then just make sure there's no overlap in the guest lists. People shouldn't be asked twice for a pre-wedding present.

If you're having the two showers, would it be possible to take your friends and people that would be invited to the couple's shower as well (assuming that not everyone would be on the guest list to both) off the list of the first shower that way they aren't receiving two shower invitations?

It's okay to have multiple showers. I am having one that is just immediate family and bridesmaids. My coworkers decided to have an outdoor themed shower for me as well, and had me make a registry/wish list at places like lowes and home depot. They have completely different guest lists, so it should be a good time! If there is anyone going to both showers I wouldn't expect them to bring gifts to both, just to be present and enjoy it. Considering you have different themes I wouldn't worry about it.

There's not a ton of overlap to the showers guest list as I live 1.5 hours away from where my bridal shower is thrown. From my understanding, a couple's shower is just bring like a camping recipe and come party with us. I asked a couple people around here, and it seems like it's more of a big party than a shower?

I don't know. I had a hard time saying "no" to my friend when she asked because she took me out to lunch and really wanted to do this for us. I said no at first, but when she explained it didn't sound like a traditional shower at all... so I said "sure sounds like fun!"

Now I'm worried about offending my aunt or cousin, and I absolutely do not want to do that!

Honestly, when I think of a couples shower, I think gifts that more traditional people or the elderly would be abhorred by....sex toys, booze related items, more sex toys. And a big house party with lots of cocktails. I'd definitely rather attend one of these than a traditional shower. :-)

Perhaps don't call it a couples "shower".... can it just be a party, since that is what you're describing? Perhaps "eat, drink, and be married! bring your favorite campfire recipe!" if you call it a shower people WILL bring gifts, and it does come off a bit like the more traditional shower is being upstaged (even though you aren't trying too).

I thought gifts were still given at a couple's shower. If it's called a shower I'm pretty sure people will think they are expected to bring gifts. Can you call it something different?

Honestly even if the camping couples shower doesn't request gifts, I still wouldn't invite the same people. It is a lot to ask of people to come to two pre-wedding parties in such a short time. VIPs (bridal party, mob, mog) could be invited to both, but I wouldn't invite anyone else to both.

I don't count your combined camping shower as a shower because you aren't asking for gifts. Just camping recipes. So that's more like a get together. You're fine.

I don't know... She described it as recipes or small "camping" gifts (she said to register but I said I'd feel more comfortable asking for recipes as "gifts"), lots of booze, and a party on the lake.

Anyways, I decided to call my cousin/BM and just talk with her because I was most worried about overshadowing her shower and she told me not to worry about it at all! That she was super happy I was going to have multiple showers and that both would be fantastic. I feel a lot better. Honestly, I should've just called her from the get-go instead of stress. So glad I did that!

Thank you all for your suggestions! I'm going to look over the guest lists, but the bridal shower list is mostly older family and a couple women from the other shower but for the most part they're not overlapping. And I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable with toys or lingerie at any party lol. I feel weird showing epics where we're kissing I can't imagine opening a gift with like something naughty!

I'd never heard of couples showers til I moved here to KY (not saying it's regional as I've not been to that many bridal showers anyways). And after talking with my cousin, she said its normal to have a bridal and couples shower and not to worry so that's what I'm going to do! Not worry! Phew! Thanks again!

Best of luck!! @maltese, can you host my "couples shower" that sounds like my kind of party!!! Lol