Must be my Tom, but…

View Quoted Comment Omg yeah, he’s like mine. They’re clueless without us! Haha yeah, at one point, my fiancé suggested having the bridal party pay for their stuff, and I said no. It was his aunts idea. But I just don’t like that. I asked you for the favor, why should you pay for something you’re doing for me as a favor? That’s my view. We are also hoping not many will show up. So far our count is in line with what we were expecting. ~90 people. Speaking of bands, I had found a band that was just absolutely spectacular. They were recording artist quality, and they were just absolutely amazing. Their cover of 24k Magic was incredible. I told my fiancé I wanted a band like that for my wedding. Well, as it turns out, the cost for said band started at $10k and it was something like 3 or 4 people out of the whole band of 20! I died! So that’s when I realized $850 for a DJ? Not bad. Yup.

Years ago, I was definitely of the mindset that weddings were a waste of money just throwing a party for other people, but it wasn't until my cousin broke off his engagement with his college sweetheart during the planning phases of their wedding that I realized that couples can really benefit from the adversity of wedding planning (it's hard to say this as I'm experiencing it now!). What I've seen and what I'm hoping is that it is an important step in me and my fiance's relationship to make us stronger down the road. And if the result of the adversity is a big party for all the individuals that support and guide our relationship, that sounds like a win-win. That is not to say that the same thing can't be accomplished with a less pricy wedding.

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Mexicans are the same! I'm only half Mexican and 2nd generation, but my fiance was born in Mexico from a very small village where the whole village usually get invited to big events. While normally I would be vomiting over the idea of a 200 person wedding, his cousins' wedding had 400 and 600 people respectively - so I'm honestly so thankful we were able to fit all the truly important family members in a 200 person guest list

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Ugh I know it's cheap all things considered. I refuse to overpay for things and I was able to get a venue for 3200 dollars that holds 400 people through our public parks program. I'm also just avoiding all the extra stuff - no bridal shower, no bridal party, everything in the same venue, I'm doing all the decorations myself and using disposable tableware. My uncle is our officiant and my best friend's boyfriend is doing my HMU. I found an almost exact replica of my dream dress on Etsy for half the price of what it was at the salon. This is 100% not the wedding I wanted, mind you, but I'm making due.

View Quoted Comment That’s not bad! $35k is a lot more reasonable for 100 people. Here’s to hoping not many show up so you can save! 🥂🥂

View Quoted Comment Good! Same here. I’m already getting married in the high season where I live (believe it or not, I am paying less than what is normal for the area around the same time, but it’s on par with the national average). There’s no way I’m going to pay for bridal showers and this and that. It’s what makes a wedding expensive. To future brides getting married, definitely make sure you set a budget, be realistic. Bridal showers and rehearsal dinners cost a lot of money. If you can’t do it, it’s okay to say no. I’ve said no a lot in this process. You are absolutely allowed to say no.

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I'm sure I'm hurting feelings with our 100 people max wedding, but oh well, it is what it is. I'm not willing to sacrifice my dream wedding ceremony venue to accommodate more people.

View Quoted Comment Yes, well, if she’s MOC that’s a reasonable rate then. Because DOC should be less. When’s your wedding? Ours is 12/11/21 and it sounds like yours is coming up too!

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I just realized that the area we live just taxes a lot on things, in general. And everything wedding related is just twice as expensive. I was looking at The Bouqs catalog for our bouquets, boutonnieres, and corsages and sent the exact same pics with the list of flowers and estimated stems to our local florist. I was okay paying a little bit more if it wasn't too big of a difference, but she quite literally quoted me TWICE as much for EVERYTHING. Even with the $50 delivery fee from The Bouqs, it still cost me less to be arranged with The Bouqs so that's what I'm doing. Also, The Bouqs accidentally put my state as AL and the tax was like $15 and I switched it to my actual address and it jumped to $45?! WTH?!