MY AUNT IS SLEEPING WITH MY EX

Woah. I'd be upset too, because it seemed like your aunt was just rubbing it in your face. Wth is that about??? Why did she feel the need to call you, at 6am no less, to basically say "Oh guess who I'm sleeping with?" Weird...

Don't let it get to you, as you said you're marrying your best friend... Let your aunt have your left overs, I'm sure you are MUCH better off now The past is the past for a reason.

Oh and yeah, way awkward of him to ask to go to the wedding. Definitely a big NO there!!

Oh I can totally understand your frustration. I would be upset also. I'm sorry but I'm against dating or sleeping with anyone that my friends or especially family members have dated or slept with! And like Edith said it seems like she was rubbing it in of her to call & put him on the phone! How old is this aunt?! Take a few deep breaths and let it go, he is an ex for a reason and now you are happily in love

WTH wow just wow..maybe you are feeling upset because you thought you were done with the past, then hello here it is at 6 AM trying to butt into your new life with your amazing FH! It's just annoying and pretty presumptuous..btw I looove your response "I'm not messy" lol. ya just hold your ground, it was really inappropriate of him to ask to come.

I would be ticked too. First off, that is a slap in the face (and gross). Why sleep with a family member's ex? Then calling you at 6am? I would of cussed them all out for calling me that early (even though I am up, but it is because I am trying to leave for work). It does sound like she is rubbing it in your face. I would leave them both be. That is just nasty IMO.

I don't understand why you're upset about your aunt dating an ex you had 16 years ago and only dated for 6 months... Strange? sure. Upsetting? It's not worth your time and emotions to be upset. It's silly.

16 years is a long time ago... don't let it get to you. He probably doesn't even look the same.

IDK...it was 16 years ago and only lasted 6 months. I'm guessing he found out you were related to the woman he is dating and thought it was a small world.

Why are you so upset? Did it end badly? Is he a bad person? I can understand being a little weirded out, but upset doesn't make sense unless there is more to the story.

I don't know when your wedding is. If it's not for a while yet I wouldn't worry about it right now since they may not be dating all that long. If it is coming up soon, then no of course he can't come.

I agree- it was 16 years ago. I would however talk to your aunt. She is free to date who she wants, especially if she didn't know who he was. However, calls at 6am and putting a random man on the phone for him to ask if he can attend your wedding- super uncool...

I think it's natural to feel a little bothered for many reasons. But, don't let it get to you. You told him he can't come, so he won't be at the wedding. As for your aunt...no comment. try to have a good day and forget about it.

I understand that it's probably a shock to the system, and agree that it's easier to just leave exes in the past and not deal with them anymore. However, it was 16 years ago, and you are marrying your best friend and the man who IS right for you where he wasn't. So try not to let their relationship bother you - they are both consenting adults, and it's really not your place.

But a 6 a.m. phone call about this? And inviting himself to the wedding? What is THAT about?

I'm not sure if you are upset about them dating or about him asking to come to the wedding?

Them dating: not a big deal like others said, it was 16years ago and 6 months and like you said he didn't know she was your aunt etc...don't let it stress you it's not worth it, if your FH find out you're upsetting over this, He may think you still have feeling over this guy (I know not the case, but it could happen)

Him asking to come to the wedding: weird, I'd be a little upset over that too but not to the point to let it bother me, I'd just tell him no exes at the wedding, like FH and I decided and move on with your life.

Good luck

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm sure my aunt wasn't being petty. I think I just felt weird getting that type of call at 6am. He is my past. And after the conversation with him, he reminded me why he is my past. I have taken a deep breath and given it to God. But he will not be at my wedding.

TOTALLY agree with Edith, what the hell is your aunt thinking? I dont know how close your family is, but if it is anything like mine..she would have known who he was. That is just a boundary friends & family do not need to cross! I can definitely see why you are upset, I would be too. I would feel like I got stabbed in the back by my aunt.

Anddddd, how in the *bleep* would you think it is even half way ok to ask to come to your EX GIRLFRIENDS wedding (who you havent talked to in SIXTEEN years) in attendance with HER AUNT!

SMH..people these days! Anyway, have a good day love. You can't fix stupid

He probably asked because:

1. Men can be extremely clueless of implications/eekiness since a lot of the time they are less emotional than we are.

2. He doesn't think of you as "the one that got away" or even as a real "ex" kind of ex since you were so young, it was so long ago and it didn't last all that long.

The 3rd, less likely possibility would be that he still holds a torch for you and secretly wants to get you back. That's the romance-novel version.

Misery loves company. So your Aunt to me definitely did this with a purpose behind it. Your getting married to your best friend. You are probably upset about the way she handled it. Don't like anyone or anything take away from your special day!!!

I agree with Noei that is weird...She was probably trying to get under your skin

Um...AWKWARD. Don't be upset though! You have moved on to better things!!

Breathe.

remember- he is your ex and just not worth the time to stress over it.

I have like 3 of my ex's coming to my wedding, but I'm kind of weird and hang out with all but two of my ex's. Boys are just clueless to the whole, "you don't ask someone if you can come to their wedding" thing. I know this because one of my ex's asked if he was invited to mine.

I'm going to use the word of the week.....that (IMO) is super "tacky" of your Aunt. This is your wedding, and if I were your FH and knew that your ex was there, I'd be upset. If it were me, I would tell your Aunt that she will be flying solo that day. Not to mention, a bit of an "ewww" factor comes in; I don't care if it is 16 years later or not. And I agree with everyone else on this topic, totally weird phone call. What was your Aunt thinking handing you the phone and saying"someone wants to talk to you". UGH!