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My aunts decided not come to the wedding despite inviting them?

Monica, on November 18, 2022 at 9:14 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 1 4

Dear community,

My wedding is in the upcoming month and I invited my aunts but none of them are coming due to silly excuses. I see them hanging out together happily but when I tried to ask them to come, they are all making up excuses and I know they are lying about it. For example, one of them told me that she will be abroad but I know for sure that she is not traveling anywhere from another source so I don´t understand why they would be lying to my face.

I don´t recall any conflicts that happened and I always remember them on their special occasions but when I see them lying and making up excuses, it really makes me question what is wrong.. and I feel disappointed/sad about it

Do you think it´s okay for them not to come despite inviting them?

FYI, they went to my cousin´s wedding recently so I feel left out and I honestly feel depressed these days because of this as I feel like I have no aunts.


4 Comments

Latest activity by Jm Sunshine, on November 19, 2022 at 5:27 PM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    You have sent invitations, not summons. People decline for numerous reasons, and all you can do is accept their decision and move on. Don’t create unnecessary drama by digging for answers.
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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
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    It is rather early to do invitations. The aunts may have felt compelled to go to the cousin's wedding but would have preferred not to go. Various people react negatively to weddings but maybe they could change their minds as the wedding approaches. The only other thing is whether your other relatives know of some issue -- but it is probably best not to add the drama, as Michelle noted.

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  • Caryn
    Devoted November 2023
    Caryn ·
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    People can decline for any reason, including simply not feeling like attending. They may have made what you consider flimsy excuses because you are pressing them and they don't want to tell you the real reason. Maybe they attended the cousin's wedding but can't afford to go to another. But whatever the reason, their only obligation is to tell you whether they will attend or not. I think you have to let it go.

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  • Jm Sunshine
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    If you don't feel like you've done anything to offend them (maybe you could even ask) then you'll just have to accept that they have declined. They don't need to give a reason. A lot of people, especially if older, are still wary of socializing especially with another uptick of Covid.
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