My BM who doesn't drink is throwing my bachelorette party

I don't drink, so I can't chime in on that... however I know that some churches make employees sign very strict codes of conduct that can cause them to be fired for something that happens outside of work. That being said, she's probably trying to give you a great party anyway.

I think the biggest thing to consider that you are the guest of honor and are concerned about this dry party. How will other participants feel? It depends on your crowd but this isn't the kind of party I would want to go to. What kinds of activities are planned?

Not everyone gets a bachelorette party. Be grateful that she planned something in your honor.

Though that is true, she does volunteer work. So really she doesn't "work" there. I actually used to do the same but broke away because the pastor told me I'm setting a bad example to children by holding a class of wine in my profile photo lol

Honestly, I don't even want alcohol at my bachelorette party and I'm having the opposite problem as you. My MOH goes out and drinks a lot while my life consists of two jobs and being a full time student so I don't even have time unless it's drinking at home with FH. It's kind of one of those let them do what they want things. They're planning the party in your honor, you're not planning it so you can't exactly say anything.

As I stated I am VERY grateful she would even think to do this for me. Just wanted to see if anyone else has had something like this happen.

@FutureMrsPresscott we all drink except for her which is okay. My other BM said she said she would provide the alcohol and the other BM replied that she wouldn't come then. It's just a mess really.

So the bm won't come unless there is no alcohol?? Granted yes she is throwing it but she should take all girls into consideration, i would tell her if she doesnt want to drink thats fine but you will provide alcohol for yourself and other guests coming. What exactly does she have planned??

Bring your own alcohol? Is the party at a church? She doesn't have to drink... others will be bringing flasks and mini bottles either way I'm sure.

I agree with @Nikki. Offer to purchase alcohol. You could also just turn down the party. But honestly, I think @Britny is right that you should be grateful for the party. You can have fun without alcohol. These are likely your best girlfriends. Just spend a sober evening with them and call it a day.

At the very least, with it being dry your sister/MOH will be able to participate in its entirety.

I say let this hostess host her party for you.

All I'm aware of is that it's at a lake house. They really didn't want me to know much

Have this night that your friend is planning in your honor and have sober fun. Then go out a couple weekends later (or whenever) with your drinking friends just as a girls night.

OP, I'm actually in the same situation..slightly. My MOH is my sister who is also 17. She realizes, as well we did discuss before I asked her to be my MOH, that she may not be at a function or two just because she's the only under aged BP member. So what my others have decided was to have a 2part bachelorette party, where she was invited to day evening events and the night time would be reserved for the adults.....I mean she knows she can't drink so we all came to a happy medium.

try a two parter....

Generally I'd agree. Be grateful for a party (as you should)

But it's a lake house? Are you staying there over night?

Someone's bringing booze.

No one is going out to a lake house with no booze. Sorry. I'm not seeing it.

Bring your own bottle! I personally would not attend a "girls night" that was a dry social event. I can be sober and bored at home with my kids! Grab a few bottles of wine and bring them with, if she asks why just say " I understand you were not comfortable supplying alcohol so I went ahead and brought some" then give her a hug and tell her how beautiful everything is!

I think this is your party,

your event! If you want to drink, just let her know that! Do it girl, its about you!

I would just be grateful and forego driving for one night. I'm not one of those people that NEEDS alcohol to have a good time tho. I like to drink but I'd be just fine with going to a party without alcohol as well.

Does one person get to set the rules for everyone?

Here's the thing.

Your sister is 17 - and can't drink. Your BM is hosting something at the church that everyone can go to.

Graciously accept this party in your honor and have a good time.

If you're that focused on drinking, then have another night with some girlfriends where you can get wasted.

T-Rex, the party isn't at a church, it's at a lake house, unless I'm misunderstanding.

ETA: The BM in question does volunteer work for a church.