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My BM who doesn't drink is throwing my bachelorette party

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Mrs. Barton, on January 27, 2017 at 8:00 PM

I just need to vent, and maybe wanted to know if you had been in a similar situation. When I asked my sister to be my MOH (she's 17) I knew I probably wouldn't have a bachelorette party and I was totally okay with it. My other BM has reached out to me saying she was planning one for me and though I am grateful, she wants a dry party because she works at a church. She's sent me non alcoholic margaritas, pina coladas, etc. I like to drink, and my FH told me if I had it was my night to have fun. Has anyone else had a "dry" bachelorette party? Was it horrible? Would I be rude to say I want alcohol? lol I am at such a loss here, again

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Master July 2015
annakay511 · on January 28, 2017 at 10:57 AM
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Tell her you appreciate the effort but you would prefer to drink. Maybe suggest going to a restaurant instead. Otherwise, just politely decline!

ETA: Just read through all the comments. I don't see why you (and the other BMs) can't bring whatever drinks you want to bring!
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Devoted April 2017
TashaMac · on January 28, 2017 at 11:00 AM
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Minis in your bag
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Master August 2017
S&J · on January 28, 2017 at 11:36 AM
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@Elizabeth:
I specifically recall several threads recently where the "moral/religious" reasons were given for not wanting to serve alcohol. The majority said that was not ok. I think whenever you are throwing or hosting an event with other people in attendance (even more if it is FOR someone) your "morals" should not supersede everyone else's choices.
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Master August 2017
S&J · on January 28, 2017 at 11:37 AM
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@TashaMac: I don't think an adult should have to sneak alcohol into their own bachelorette party.
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Master December 2016
Elizabeth · on January 28, 2017 at 12:13 PM
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@S&J you are correct. There is often a double standard on this forum when it comes to dry weddings for moral reasons and vegan weddings for moral reasons and that hypocrisy is often pointed out on the vegan threads. Here's an example from 2 months ago.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/vegan-wedding/325e7fbff1037597.html?page=6

IMO, every wedding should have alcohol and a meat option for dinner.

That said, to me, there's a difference between a wedding and a girls night out, though, especially if the girls' night is hosted at the home of the person with moral objections to something. But in this case, this BM isn't even hosting (at least not by herself) so that standard doesn't apply.
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