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Just Said Yes January 2018

My boyfriend just bought me a fake engagement ring of $78

Dorah, on January 2, 2018 at 11:45 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 49
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I am really confused and frustrated at the same time. My boyfriend and I have dated for two month. We are supposed to be married. He wants me to get pregnant before we get married and he wsnts it ASAP. I told him I need to find a job first or start my business so that I can work from home. I see red flags though.
1. He wants me pregnant before getting married
2. He bought me a fake diamond ring of $78 yet he bought his previous wife an engagement ring worth $10,000.
3. He wants me to be a house wife and a stay home mom and his dependant. So I would use his debit card if I need to buy something.
4. He will lend me money to put into my business and I will have to sign it upfront of a lawyer.
5. He is afraid that if my business starts making money the IRS will make him pay more money in taxes since he earns quite alot of money already.
I am so afraid he just doesn't love me but wants a baby.

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on November 17, 2018 at 8:40 PM
  • FutureMrs.V
    Super June 2018
    FutureMrs.V ·
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    There's so many red flags here. You've only been dating two months and he wants all of this? My advice: find a job or start your business as you would like. If this all goes south, then you have your own income. He sounds very controlling to be honest.
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  • stephanie
    Super October 2017
    stephanie ·
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    You've dated for two months? I hope this is fake. Run away. Everything about this is bad.
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  • Joanna
    Expert October 2017
    Joanna ·
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    There needs to be a red flag emoji.

    The only advice I have is to get out of that relationship before you end up pregnant.
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  • M
    Savvy October 2018
    Mindy ·
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    Run. Two years from now you'll look back and be so thankful you didn't make the mistake you know you're about to be make. He is trying to control you in every way possible and you know it. Go.
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  • Stephanie
    Super March 2018
    Stephanie ·
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    Yikes. Get out of this relationship ASAP. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
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  • Persephonenightingale
    Dedicated March 2024
    Persephonenightingale ·
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    Hon, this is very concerning. He seems very selfish and controlling, and there is no room for these factors in a marriage. I suggest taking a step back, making sure that what you want is taken into consideration, and making practical decisions to make sure you are ready for this. I don't suggest staying in this relationship, especially with him thinking more of the one (himself) than the two. Love is patient and kind. The red flags you mentioned are neither of these.
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  • Mrsjacoria2018
    Devoted October 2018
    Mrsjacoria2018 ·
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    Red flags!!!!!
    Maybe you should find out why his last marriage didn't work out....
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  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
    Miaaa ·
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    Is he trying to make sure you CAN get pregnant before getting married? Dude, run. You're right about the red flags. I don't think the cost of the ring is even the biggest issue here. It sounds like he's using you to set up the 1950s fantasy life which is horrifying.

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
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    You are in charge of your life and your body. This is one of the strangest situations I have ever heard. Do not let this guy determine your life path for you.

    How old are you? What is your level of education?

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  • EE
    Savvy March 2018
    EE ·
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    Leave him. If this doesn't scream "Red Flags" all over it, I don't know what does. Not one thing that you said makes amy sense at all. Do yourself a HUGE favor and walk away, before you end up living your life in pain a d regret. At the end, expect better for yourself. Wishing you the best.
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  • Jacks
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    Run........

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  • ACD
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    Trust your gut. Good luck !

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  • Jamie
    Devoted October 2018
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    I’m so sorry but you’re right about the red flags

    if you’re only together a couple of months and it’s this clear how controlling he is you really should get out now
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  • Audrey
    Devoted October 2018
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    This has to be a joke...
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    Mari ·
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    Is this for reals?
    If it was me, I wouldn’t have time to type the question, I’d run as far as I could.
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  • MillerTime
    Devoted September 2018
    MillerTime ·
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    Put some comfy shoes on and RUN!!!! If those are all things you genuinely want then that's fine but it doesn't sound like you agree one bit. That isn't a healthy relationship and will only get worse.
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  • O
    Master October 2017
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    I hope this isn't real, if so, this isn't a relationship you seem to want, so leave while you can.
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  • LoveAlwaysWin
    Devoted August 2018
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    RUN🏃🏽‍♀️
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  • Sarah
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    Sarah ·
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    The fact that you can see red flags at all should give you your answer. You’ve only been dating for two months, and all of these things have already happened. You should leave.
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  • Alforev
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    Alforev ·
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    My thoughts exactly because this is too intense.

    OP - the cost of the engagement ring is not what should matter most, it’s that this guy is clearly a jerk based on what you’ve said. Is this a man you would want to raise a child with? If he’s so incredibly controlling to you, how will he act toward a child? Too many red flags. Get out of this relationship. No one deserves to be treated like that.
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